Post # 1
Im in the middle of planning my wedding and..well I just cant make up my mind on anything, its flusterating and it doesnt help the the venue keeps changing either(not by choice, my Future Mother-In-Law has fallen really ill and we’re not sure if she would be able to make it to our first venue by the time it comes around, so i had to find a more local one). Its not just the venue either its everything, im struggling with a theme, colors, flowers, bridesmaid dresses, food, decor. I just dont know how to make my head more clear and be more decisive and NOT change my mind a week later. =c Any advice??
Post # 3
@myluverbuny: Sorry to hear about your Future Mother-In-Law. Hope she will be okay.
As for advice…I am someone who can NEVER decide on something. It is a joke to most of my friends and family. Even my fiance teases me about it. Recently we bought our wedding bands…and then I changed my miiiiiiiind about it. So we have to go in and see if we can exchange mine.
So, all of this is to say that I totally get where you are coming from. Wedding planning is hard because there are SO many options and they are all SO beautiful. Also, weddings are a lot of pressure, so that does not help.
What I did for my wedding was I ruled out what I DIDN’T want. Then I made top 5 lists for what I liked. When I was pinning, or leafing through bridal magazines, I noticed that I kept fixating on certain images.
Also, ask yourself what you love or what has meaning to you. What is your (or your fiances) favourite colour? Is there a flower that has meaning for you or that you adore? Is there a meal you love to make or eat together? Etc, etc.
Another thing I did was outsource decisions. When I was really wavering between colour schemes, I let my fiance choose between two that I loved. Decision made.
So, you could let your bridesmaids pick their own dresses. That would be another decision made for you.
Post # 4
You’ve still got a lot of time. My advice is to settle on a venue first. So much of everything will make sense after you settle on that. If you choose too much before the venue you may end up having to change a lot to go with the style of the venue.
Post # 5
@LilacViolet: Thanks that really helped! we’ve decided on a venue, and that kinda helped us with the theme( its a victorian herritage house) and it kinda helps with the colors and flowers and such.
@MrsWishyWashy: Thanks, it turns out thats exactally what happened =D
Post # 6
@myluverbuny: It sounds like a beautiful venue! It will definitely easy to go on from here with ideas!
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
@myluverbuny: Date twin 🙂 Don’t worry, we’ve got lots of time. No need to decide on things until you’re fully sure that’s what you want, right? I definitely need to mull over all the decisions for a while, and sometimes I stress a bit that the other August bees seem to have soooo much done. But what’s the rush?!
I’m sorry about your FMIL’s illness.
Post # 8
@LilacViolet: I agree with this advice. I didn’t know you could be indecisive but picky at the same time (that’s me!). I always thought I knew what I wanted, especially when it came to my wedding but 3 of everything later (and I do mean EVERYTHING– 3 dresses, 3 venues, 3 caterers, changed my colors a MILLION times) my vision is coming together.
My advice is to cut out the theme. That’s what was screwing me up. Instead, find your wedding style. How do you want your wedding to feel (rustic, chic, modern, etc)? Once I got that down, everything became clear to me and it was much easier to plan.
Post # 9
jsut take a break. once you come back to things you should have a little more clarity