Post # 1
I know this subject has been done to DEATH, but I guess I just wanted some real world opinions and experiences while I am waiting for the right time to POAS.
I menstruated on the 11th of this month and my periods last for about 3/4 days, so it was done and over by the 15th. My Fiance and I aren’t actively trying/not preventing. We’ve been doing this for about ~10 months with no BPFs and were honestly thinking about getting checked out by our docs at the year mark.
Starting yesterday, I have had HORRIBLE lower back pain and cramping. My nipples have also been really tender/sensitive. Last night/this morning I had some nausea, but did not throw up. The problem is that I am not set to ovulate until Friday! So I couldn’t possibly be pregnant, right?
I guess I’m just confused. I usually only get back/breast soreness like this when I am about to PMS. My next period is due Feb. 8th, so I can’t really check until then.
Any advice? Similar experiences? Opinions? All are welcome 🙂
Post # 3
mrsbarack : Hi! I was kind of a crazy symptom spotter- what really helped me keep ( or try to keep ) my sanity is remembering that if you are having pregnancy symptoms you will test positive on a test, so when in doubt just POAS. If it is negative then your symptoms are PMS or ovulation.
Also, ovulating has symptoms all on its own! I would get really bloated and gassy when I was set to ovulate. Hormones are crazy!
I honestly didn’t feel any different from O day to POAS day,and my real symptoms didn’t kick in until 6-7 weeks.
Post # 4
Boxerlover24 : Thank you so much! I might just grab a test tonight then 🙂
Post # 5
mrsbarack : sounds like something associated with ovulation, or perhaps a quick flu bug? You’re right that if you had your period 2 weeks ago and you are due to ovulate around friday, you can’t be pregnant. Even after ovulation, it takes 6-11 days for a fertilized egg to implant, so your body only starts acting pregnant right before your next period would have come.
Post # 6
mrsbarack : No real advice about the symptoms. But if you’re getting fed up because of no BFP yet in 10 months, you could try “actively trying” rather than the NTNP approach. Taking your temp and doing OPKs can help you figure out when you’re ovulating and time intercourse accordingly. I’m just thinking if you’re at the point of going to the doctor anyway about it, maybe it wouldn’t hurt to track things a bit more closely! Hope you get your BFP soon!
Post # 7
KittyYogi : Thank you! I am probably just a little overly excited. I’ve had this lower backache for a day or two now and I get them right before I PMS usually, so I thought it was strange…and then fell into a Google hole, haha.
Post # 8
tiffanybruiser : My Fiance and I are taking baby steps to getting there. We used OPKs and an app over the summer, but when nothing happened, we decided to lay off actively trying since each month was a little disappointment for the both of us. I know it sounds silly, but we thought if we tried a little longer, but relaxed and enjoyed ourselves, it might just “happen.” We both talked about it and want to be proactive about infertility, because if we are, we want to adopt. We haven’t temped…the process seemed a little intimidating to me, but I will definitely take your advice and try it before we start seeing doctors. Thank you ^.^
Post # 9
I just wanted to chime in to say that I agree. It sounds like ovulation symptoms, so definitely treat this like your fertile window and have sex accordingly.
The crazy thing about ovulation symptoms is I never noticed them until we started ttc. Now, I can tell exactly when I ovulate because I get all kinds of symptoms – bloating, weird tingling feeling in my stomach, sore breasts, nausea, headaches, and more. I can’t figure out how I missed all of these symptoms for years!
If or when you go to the doctor, I recommend that you see a Reproductive Endocrinologist (infertility specialist) if you can. My insurance says that it doesn’t cover infertility treatments, but they still paid for all of my RE visits and all of my testing. I’m speaking from years of experience dealing with ttc/infertility. Don’t waste your time and money seeing your obgyn unless that’s your only option. An RE will be able to offer you so much more testing and treatment options, even if you want low intervention. Also, if you do go to the doctor, your Fiance should also go in and get a semen analysis done. We paid $75 for my husband’s. It’s such an important step that many couples skip. I can’t tell you how many couples I’ve seen on ttc forums that wasted valuable time and money getting invasive tests and treatments done on the woman only to find out months and months later that the man has an issue too. A very simple, inexpensive test could have saved them from a lot of frustration and heartache. My RE required a semen analysis and it turned out that my husband had a borderline low sperm count. I had him take a bunch of supplements that are supposed to help increase count and quality. We did a combo of infertility meds plus IUI and we were successful on the first treatment cycle. This was for our youngest (3rd) daughter.
Anyway, I’ll get off my soap box now and just say good luck! I hope you get your bfp soon!
Post # 10
mrsbarack : Another great thing about temping and opks is they can suggest when things are going ‘right’ and might help make your case for more aggressive treatment once you do go to the doctor.
Post # 11
I didn’t do any of that temperature or tracking stuff, just kept an eye on my period app. We kind of aimed for the middle of the menstrual cycle (how scientific! haha). I’d warn that it sounds like my experience is outside the norm but I pretty much knew straight away. What gave it away was my breasts were sore and I was getting weird twinges about 10-12 days before my period – waaaaay too early. My periods were like clockwork my whole life so to be experiencing weird pre-menstrual symtoms so far out of whack with my regular cycle was an immediate heads up that something had changed. My breasts felt like they were a kilo heavier than normal (and they’re just regular size to begin with). All that said, we only tried that first cycle and it happened straight away which we were NOT expecting (we’re a bit older – 36/44) so have very little experience of any of it outside that first try. Your dates seem a bit early though… best of luck, hope it all goes well!
Post # 12
mrsbarack : I was doing the exact thing you are yesterday and came across this thread in a forum. Basically somebody has compiled 18 pages worth of various women’s dpo symptoms before getting their BFP.
Hope you find it useful 😊