Post # 1
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Busy bee
It is a long story so I will try to keep it short…my boyfriend and I live together and have been discussing getting another dog. He brings it up all the time, and I asked about it and he snapped. He said “I can’t afford to get another dog, I have to get the roof fix (which we already did), the chimney, and all this other stuff a dog isn’t in the budget”. I ended up not getting the hint and snapped back and told him a “dog was in the budget and he needs to stop being so cheap”. The agruement grew ( we hardly ever argue) and he just blurted it out. He said “Cut it out! I have to save for your engagement ring and I am going to ask you New Years, so just chill out “. Now I want to say something about it, but I kind of want to act like I never heard it. He knows I think about it (Friday is wedding night SYTTD & Four Weddings), but it seems like a forbidden topic.
Is it a topic I can bring up?
I am super excited and I don’t know how to hold it all in 🙂
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
Honestly I think I wouldn’t say anything. I think a lot of guys pride themselves in planning something nice for us and I bet he’s feeling guilty for blurting something like that out, out of anger.
I know that it will be soooo hard to not talk about it, but I think you should wait for him to bring it up.
Post # 4
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Helper bee
I agree, I’d chill out and pretend I didn’t hear it and let him have his time to plan. My Mister is planning on popping the question at New Years as well. Waiting til then is not going to be fun. But it’s doable 🙂
Post # 5
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Helper bee
Unless he brings it up again, I think your Boyfriend or Best Friend would probably prefer to at least be able to pretend it’s a total surprise.
When you feel the need to gush or vent, come here! You’ll find lots of people to sympathize with you here. :p
Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
no need to bring it up and when he surprises you (if he is smart, he will do it before New Years now that he told you!), you will be all the more happy you didn’t say anything. And its not that far off to hold it in!
Post # 7
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Busy bee
Oh man I’m sorry 🙁 I wouldn’t bring it up because he is probably mad at himself for saying anything to you. Just forget about it and let him do his thing. NYE will be here before you know it.
Post # 8
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Busy bee
Thanks for the advice ladies! It is just a crazy feeling to know and it is hard not to share how happy I am with the person who matters most. I will kepp it to myself.
Post # 10
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Sugar bee
I agree with PP’s, unless you had your heart set on a surprise, I’d keep hush.
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