- 5 months ago
- Wedding: June 2017
My fiancé recently broke up with me… My fiancé recently broke up with me two weeks ago. We had our wedding planned already. I have text messages and e-mails from him to me and my mom that said to go forward with more deposits on the wedding that he was 250% sure about marrying me on June9, 2017. He proposed to my on January 28,2017. His mom caused issues since we got engaged. They didn’t pay for anything except gave us a free week of their timeshare for our honeymoon, which no money was spent on from them. My ex fiancé financed our wedding bands at a jewelry store and we picked up my wedding band two days before he broke up with me. I have my wedding band that was kept in his apartment where I lived with him and I have the engagement ring he gave me that was his grandmothers. I told him he can have the ring back when him and his parents decide how to pay my mom back the $15,000 (verbally). My mom wants to know what legal standing she has to get money from him or his parents as she cannot get refunded any money from the wedding vendors. She spent $15,000 and signed all the contracts. I moved out of his apartment and I am absolutely devastated. We are in the state of New Jersey.
My ex-fiancé got me pregnant as we were actively trying. I recently told him I am pregnant and he told me to get an abortion I told him no I am keeping the baby. He pushed for a baby and we were trying since December. We recently broke up and I moved out 3 weeks ago, we were supposed to getmarried on June 9. My mom and I are left with all the wedding issues with cancelling the wedding and him and his parents didn’t pay for anything and my mom can’t get any of the money back. I am heartbroken
I tried to work things out with him. His mom cursed at me and hung up on me over the phone before this all happened. She felt like everything was moving too fast and they weren’t giving my mom their friends for the wedding list. He works with his parents everyday. We were high school sweethearts. First love. We reconnected this year. I think the fact that I have been divorced and have two kids they didn’t like. I think them being Jewish and me being Catholic was another problem. I got a Rabbi for our wedding ceremony. He told his mom if she didn’t apologize to me weeks ago that they weren’t going to have a relationship anymore. He is an only child. She then didn’t talk to him for 2 weeks in the office. His last long relationship of over a year, she had a child too from a different relationship and they tried for a month to have a baby and his parents didn’t like her either supposedly because she had tattos and piercings. He didn’t speak to his mom for a few weeks either and then they started talking again and they broke up. The day we had our fight, is when his mom spoke to him again at the office after not speaking to him for 2 weeks. I apologized to him for my mistakes in the relationship, etc. but he told me he can’t wait to marry me and loves me, etc. even the day of the fight. We bought our wedding bands together. He financed them. The night he had that big fight with his mom, we committed to each other 250% and met with our rabbi that no matter what we are going to get married June 9, he wrote my mom an e-mail saying 250% he wants to marry me and be with me and his mom will come around. I offered couples counseling/marriage counseling and he would’t go.
He left that night March 23 his apartment, I lived with him. I cried and locked myself in our bedroom. I apologized for that. I am going to therapy now several times a week since our breakup. He choose not to see me until he broke up with me. He didn’t stay at his apartment, even though I was at my family’s house with my two children for a week so he had his place to himself. He worked with his parents during the day and stayed at their house at night for 6 days. They changed his mind about me. Now, he says its not all about his parents, he is unhappy. WHAT? He broke up with me. I am still in shock. I love him and I miss him and I planned so hard for our wedding and I committed myself to him. How can he hurt me like this? How can he let anyone get in the middle of us? How can his parents influence his decisions? Did he not really love me? Does he not understand that we were getting married in June and trying for a baby? He went with me to TWO doctors appointments in December to try for a baby. His parents were supposed to call my mom in February to discuss the fiances of the wedding and my mom said his parents didn’t bring up the fiances, they only brought up the fact that they heard we were trying for a baby and they don’t want that, not for a while after we get married.
How can he hurt me like this? We are stuck with cancelling the wedding stuff, we ordered our guest book together, etc. Him and his parents didn’t pay for anything for our wedding. My mom paid $15,000 for our wedding and can’t get anything refunded! They didn’t even offer to help pay her back. I can’t believe this is happening.
Sorry for the long rant.