(Closed) AF came and I've never been sadder :(

posted 6 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I’m so sorry.  I so wish that it worked on the first try for all of us – it would be so much easier πŸ™‚  Just remember to give yourself some grace, and even though it sucks to hear, 3 months is a totally normal amount of time for it to take, maybe even longer.  Keep hanging in there.  It’s harder for husbands too.  They just don’t fully understand.  We live with these bodies and signs and symptoms every day and they, lucky guys!!, don’t have that constant reminder.  Maybe you could try to talk to him about it.  That way you could use this time that it takes and experience to get even closer!  Oh and definitley treat yourself – that’s my rule with AF! πŸ™‚  Get a coffee drink, a new nail polish, a magazine – something for YOU πŸ™‚ 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@mrskrumpet:  I’m sorry that it didn’t work in the first try and that you feel your husband is not supportive. TTC is an emotional roller coaster. Please keep in mind that even a perfectly healthy, young couple has only a 20-25% chance to conceive in a particular month – even if you timed and did everything perfect! Keep your chin up and hang in there. And as ecohoma said, CD 1 is the day to treat yourself to something special and girly πŸ™‚

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’m sorry, I know seeing AF can be the worst feeling no matter how long you have been trying. But just because you didn’t get pregnant on your first month of TTC does not mean it won’t be easy or it’ll be a hard road. Get a movie and your favorite bottle of wine and just unwind. Maybe this month will be your month!

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper

@mrskrumpet:  I had this experience last month.  I was 4 days late, and even read a false positive home pregnancy test!  I felt so crushed when AF arrived.  I wrote about it on this thread and the other TTC ladies were so incredibly supportive; they made me feel a lot better.

I’m sorry this wasn’t the cycle for you, but try to cheer up – you get to try again!  Good luck!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Sadly it takes 6 months to a year for most people to get pregnant.  And then there are people like me who are working on 2+ years now…. or more.  πŸ™‚  Don’t get discouraged!

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

@mrskrumpet:  It’s SO hard, every time shark week starts… This month was really, REALLY hard for me too. I have not cried so hard since we had a miscarriage in March. I just wanted to say hugs… It gets easier..Sadly.

Just remember that it is normal for it take 6-12 months even for “fertile” couples…Although I hope it doesn’t for you!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Oh pumpkin I’m so sorry that your so sad. I think we all kinda go through this when we first start TTC… its gets easier I promise and it will happen. Don’t get discouraged. Just remember that even healthy couples can take up to one year to have a baby. In the mean time… enjoy your amazing husband!!

Good luck! We are all hear if you need anything!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m so sorry hun…keep your chin up!  Try not to worry so much about it and it’ll happen when you least expect!  I had the same meltdown to my best friend at one point.  We both agreed that it’s TOTALLY not like they teach you in middle school where you are positive that you’ll get pregnant through two pairs of jeans because you got too close.  Smile

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We’ve been trying for a while… Good luck to you love! πŸ™‚

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

i know how you feel and i’m sure many other bees do too. we were trying for a good six months before anything happened. and that six months felt like a lifetime. every month when she came knocking all i wanted to do was cry and i was not a happy person. everytime i saw a baby i just looked at him.. he knew what i was going through. just give it time. i used the ovulation calender on first responce website and it worked for me. other than that i didnt live by the books, i didnt want it to become more stressful then what i had already made it. he said he just wanted it to happen with time and when i did happen i didnt even know i was pregnant. he had to tell me that i hadnt had a period last month. so here i am 25 weeks pregnant. one month is not bad my SIL and BIL had been trying for 5 years, she had their daughter 3 months early and she didnt make it, now shes 33 weeks pregnant and healthy. and SO cousin had tried for 7 before getting their little girl.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I fear this is how I will feel next cycle. We will TTC for the first time but I’ve been charting for 4 months so I feel like now that I can pinpoint my O date, easy peasy. But clearly, it’s not always the case. So I can totally relate to your ideal of having no problems.

I also keep thinking it would be perfect to get pregnant next cycle because I would be around 3 months and ready to announce it to everyone at Christmas and I am a Christmas FREAK! I always wanted a proposal then and I didn’t get it, now I would love to announce a baby.

Ugh. Basically I’m no help at all except that you’re not alone! *Hugs*

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m sorry you’re feeling down about this. But like so many others have said, even with perfect timing the chance of everything lining up perfectly is not super high. There’s actually a lot of stars that have to align to make a baby!  Just because it didn’t happen first try doesn’t mean you won’t have a comparatively “easy” time getting a baby!  For now just enjoy copious amounts of sex and a fun secret between you and your husband that you’re trying πŸ™‚

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I’m so sorry hon.  My husband hasn’t been the greatest at understanding how upset I am when AF shows up.  Last cycle, my body went bonkers and AF was really, really late.  When I got beyond the time that a test would catch it and I had to accept that I wasn’t pregnant, he just said, “Well, what do you want me to say?!”  In a matter of days, I felt better and I know you will too… good thoughts to you!!! 

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