(Closed) Affairs, unfriending, fake friendships, oh my!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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4327 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

It’s just facebook. Tell her it was an accident. Tell her  you did it on purpose. Put your facebook account on hold until the class is over. Just stay far away from both girls and their drama llama.

Post # 4
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2891 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I would be honest. “Originally I unfriended you because I felt you were starting rumors but things have come to my attention that made me question my decisio to unfriend you.” I am not saying you should say that but that is who I am for good or for bad :{ I can’t be ayoneone other than myself so my advice is to stay true to your nature. What do you want to say?

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I would just play dumb! “I’m not sure what happened???” If she sends another request, accept it but unsubscribe from her feeds and maybe restrict what she can see on your page. And MYOB when it comes to the triangle- no need toget caught in that kind of drama!

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper

Hmm, tough one. If you feel you can’t tell her the whole truth in this case I would go with a total fib.

Now that you have a softer spot for the girl you unfriended you could blame yourself and say something like you had bad PMS and took something she did personally, later realizing she didn’t actually do anything wrong, and it was just a click and it was done, but you were embarrassed to try to re-add her.

I would have a really hard time not telling someone I knew that their husband is or is about to cheat, though. Repercussions come what may.

 

Post # 8
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3136 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Can you deactivate for a while? 

Post # 9
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6359 posts
Bee Keeper

@aw6576:  I know. It would be fireworks. But the kind of personality I am, I’m not sure I could withhold information that, in the place of the woman cheated on, would be so important for me to know.

Maybe go with the PMS fib about the facebook deletion and, a little later, an anonymous tipoff.

Post # 10
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2523 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

This is awkward turtle.

I’m not even sure what I would do.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@aw6576:  Tell her you don’t know how it happened, that facebook did it. It does happen sometimes

Post # 13
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6359 posts
Bee Keeper

I disagree that it takes two for a partner to cheat (well, haha, I mean, that it takes both partners…obviously there is the person they’re cheating with), but I understand not wanting to involve yourself.

I suggest the anonymous tip but I wouldn’t judge you if you just couldn’t because you didn’t want to risk being dragged into the drama whirlpool. Who knows, if the situation really came up for me tomorrow, maybe I would pretend I never had that conversation with Ann. I certainly wouldn’t talk with her anymore about it. I’d tell it her makes me feel awkward, it’s none of my business, and I’d like to talk about something else.

Post # 14
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1578 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club

I would blame Facebook. Say you don’t know what happened… You thought she deleted you!

Post # 15
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7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I would probably be honest and say you were offended by some of her posts, but say that you feel bad about it now. 

About the affair, STAY OUT OF IT AT ALL COSTS! You don’t know what has happened or will happen. It’s not your place to tell her, especially because you don’t have all the information. 

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