- 6 years ago
Hi Bees. I thought a while back that I might be getting enggaged to my SO within a year. Well, some problems arose, and pushed that back. We are getting through them, and we are doing well now. I have every confidence we will make it, which is such a relief! It may still be a little early to be considering an engagement, but having thought about it before it is hard to keep my mind from wandering there. Don’t get me wrong, there is no way I would agree to marry him unless I was 100% positive we were stronger than ever. Still, I think it is still a good idea to consider the possible scenarios for the future and make sure I know what I’m getting myself into.
I graduated with a BS in Psychology in 2010. After that, I had no idea what I wanted to do for a career. Research? Become a professor? Clnical Therapy? I was going back and forth so I got myself a job that I am happy with and will give my resume a good boost for when I have everything figured out.
I think I’ve decided. I have always wanted to become a clinical psychologist. Being a lab manager/research scientist has shown me that I don’t have a flair for research, though, so I don’t think I want to go for a PhD. I’d rather get a doctorate with a PsyD so I can focus my education on the therapy rather than research. However… PhDs usually waive tuition and give stipend. PsyDs often don’t (with a few exceptions). Getting a PhD is like having a job. Getting a PsyD usually isn’t.
Add to that that it has always been my (and SO’s) dream of living in Europe for a year. I would try to get a job as a psychology technician through a US governmental job. Plus, it would increase my chances to getting accepted into a PsyD program even more.
I used to be positive that I wanted to have my career figured out and be financially stable before marrying. However, with all these ambitions…
Implied timeline (if all goes to plan):
-Finish my current job in Summer 2013.
-Work in Europe (whilst applying to PsyD programs) until Summer 2014
-Start PsyD in the US and finish it in 2019??
I would be almost 32 when I finish!! I’d have been dating SO for 11 years!! If I’m already with the person I want to marry, I don’t want to wait that long!!! But I feel like it’d be irresponsible to marry while I’d still be in school.
Do you Bees think it would be a bad idea to marry in the midst of school? What do you think?