Post # 1
Okay, so I’m getting married in 12 days. I’m so excited but I’m also sick to my stomach thinking about not being able to sleep the night before.
I have a TERRIBLE sleep record when I’m stressed or I have to wake up early the next day. I try to sleep l, but I get anxious about getting sleep…leading me to not sleep and panic in the middle of the night. This happened before my bachelorette day trip, my bridal shower, and even when I chaperoned Grad Night for the school I work for. I’ve gotten as little as 2 hours of sleep these nights and felt terrible the next day.
Here’s what I do to try to sleep:
-Relaxing with my favorite show (TV usually puts me to sleep)
-Laying quietly and counting/playing little games in my head
-Therapy (currently attending)
I don’t want to take any sleep drugs as I want to be able to drink the next day (our wedding is at a winery) and I know it’s not safe to mix sleep aids with alcohol. Any advice from brides who have lived through this and/or experience this struggle would be GREATLY appreciated.
Post # 2
Try to be in a dark and quiet room by yourself for at least an hour before you’d like to sleep. Start trying to establish a sleep pattern now
Post # 3
Hey wedding date buddy!!! Honestly I’m the same way. I talked to my Dr and she wrote me an RX for three 0.5 mg (low dose) Xanax for the night before the wedding, and the plane ride to and from our honeymoon. Taking a low dose Ativan, Xanax etc. the night before the wedding will not hidner your ability to drink the next day. Most benzos have a short half-life. I’m a nurse and I HATE taking pills. I don’t take anything unless I’m extremely ill. I will be taking a xanax to help with anxiety on the night before my wedding though. I refuse to be up all night and a tired mess that day. If your anxiety is that bad you may want to at least ask your Dr for suggestions.
Post # 4
I take Valerian Root (its in the vitamin section at the drugstore) along with melatonin and it knocks me out!
Post # 5
Do something exciting that day with some friends! Don’t sit at home the day before and gather nerves and energy.
I didn’t sleep at all my wedding night! I was literally wide awake at 2 am, then my cat jumped on the bed and I whispered to him to not wake my Maid/Matron of Honor who stayed with me, which coincidentally woke her up and we were up and about doing stuff since. It’s one of my favorite memories from the wedding 😂 But man was I exhausted for the wedding shenanigans!
Good luck, Bee and Comgratz!
Post # 6
I also have mad anxiety and have a terrible sleep record before first days of school, tests, any big thing. And recently any small thing too.
How many mg of melatonin are you taking? You can have up to 6mg a night so maybe take more? Also try taking a lavender scented bath and I also recommend valerian root.
I count backwards from 1000, take Emergen-Zzz (from the makers of Emergen-C), and do some body relaxation exercises in bed (methodically tensing and relaxing individualized muscles).
I actually got a wonderful night sleep the night before but couldn’t sleep my actual wedding night. I spent about four hours recalling the wedding and looking at hundreds of guest’s pictures.
Post # 7
Have you tried having some “me time”? Works like a charm usually.. 😉
Post # 8
Do not use your bed for anything but sleep and sex. No eating, no TV, no reading, etc. This will help you associate your bed with “sleep only” and signal your body to sleep. If you do those other things, do them somewhere else and then come to bed when you are exhausted.
Also try to keep your sleep cycle as consistent as possible. Get up at the same time every day, go to bed at the same time every night, even on weekends. If your body is in a cycle it will be more likely to fall asleep easier at a certain time.
Listening to ASMR videos helps me to fall asleep. Also the guided meditations by Positive Magazine on YouTube. That might help you a bit if you’re open to it.
Post # 9
My wedding is June 23. I have GAD. I wake up like 10 times a night before big important days centered around me(except for my birthdays), or when i have to do something stressful or if I had a big fight with someone, or if I am about to see someone I havemt seen in ages… so basically: Grads, job interviews, starting new job, important trips, meeting up with estranged family members, meeting FIs family for first-time, dress shopping, makeup and hair trial, etc. It is safe to assume the wedding will be the mother of all event so far in my life…
I have a prescription for Ativan 1mg, 1 tab before bed, when needed. So when I know I will have one of those days.. I know I will be waking up, and tense and tired.. I take a pill. Ativan is habit forming so I am hyper vigilant of that and take it only once in a while. Sometimes I go months without taking it, and some times end up taking it 1-2 times per week.
I will for sure be taking it the night before the wedding so I can get some sleep.
I also have a herbal supplement called Valerian if I need to stay calm for an event during the day.. i can take that, it just takes the edge off a bit.
I also try to go to Yoga once a week at least. And listen to calming music, do slow breathing and progressive relaxation on other days. But for very important days when I need guarantee if sleep.. I take Ativan.
Post # 10
I slept about 40 mins the night before my wedding. Didn’t impact on my enjoyment at all.
Post # 11
I was exhausted, but adrenaline got me through the wedding! I had more energy than I’d ever had before.
Post # 12
I took short acting sleeping pills. Worked perfectly. Was fine to drink the next day
I also have GAD
Post # 13
I have terrible sleep problems also. I find that a good cup of lavender/chamomile tea (unsweetened) helps to calm me down a bit. TV is definitely a helper. And benadryl. That stuff knocks me out, even if I just take one pill.
Post # 14
have you tried an OTC sleep aid? They are just antihistamines to make you drowsy and don’t typically have lasting effects (or interfere with alcohol once it’s metabolized) as long as you take them early enough to give yourself a good night’s rest (8 hours or so)
Post # 15
Hey, we are wedding date twins AND GAD twins. Haha
Ill be having my ativan beside me the night before as well.