Post # 1
After Fiance & I registered, anytime I would have an “Ah Ha!” moment, I would go on the websites and add whatever item it was I had thought of. For example, after we booked our honeymoon, I decided to add a personal DVD player and travel bag for the long flight.
But my shower invites were sent out last week. Since then I am paranoid I am going to think of something to add to the registry, but won’t be able to! I’m really worried I’m going to forget that I’m not supposed to be looking at the registries any more!
Anyone else totally against registry snooping? Or worried they also might do it accidently? Or do you like to know ahead of time?
Post # 3
I’m in the same boat. I have two showers in the next two months and I don’t want to ruin the surprise when I open the gifts because I already know what was purchased. I will care about this less for the actual wedding, but at the shower I do think the surprise will be fun.
The only solution I can think of is that if something needs to be changed or added, I’m going to ask my Fiance to do it.
I’m interested to hear other ideas as well!
Post # 4
on a lot of registries there is an option to not see what is purchased already, try looking for a little box you can check or uncheck so that you don’t spoil the surprise
Post # 5
We just registered yesterday, but I plan on snooping. Can’t help it! 🙂
Post # 6
we have our registery at bed bath and beyond– it is all I can do to not log on and check it out– might have to check just once to see if I can find the option of blocking whats be bought. thanks prttypancake
Post # 7
I don’t understand the big deal. When people buy stuff off our Amazon registry it arrives a week later anyway, as I discovered this week. You know you’re getting items you picked out – it’s not really a surprise.
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School
I didn’t even realize I should think about not looking at what’s been bought to keep it a surprise! I’m not a snooper, I’m a full out stalker and I fully admit it!! 🙂 So much fun!
Post # 9
I don’t think it’s possible to not check on your registry. You need to make sure that things aren’t going on clearance and that there are still gifts available for people to purchase.
Post # 10
@prttypancake: I have never seen a box before. I would go look, but I dont want to see anything! And I worry that even if it didn’t show me the purchased items, I would notice things missing!
@MissAsB: I know that I’ll have to check it again, but I’m hoping at least to make it to the shower – so that way what’s off the list, we’ll technically have. Then I figure I’ll go back on there and add more if need be. Probably like the week after the shower. I figure people who are buying for the shower will be done and people who will be buying for the wedding, might not have started yet.
For those of you who are going to check in on your registry ongoing, how often? Or how much did you ever have to add to it?
Post # 11
I LOVE registry snooping. And I am 100% against snooping generally. These gifts are for ME (yeah and him too) and it’s not an invasion of anyone’s privacy.
Post # 12
My shower is this upcoming Saturday and I have been registry snooping all weekend long.
I actually had one of my bridesmaids change my password for the week so I can’t see who has purchased what until I go to the shower.
Macys and Williams-Sonoma both will tell you exactly who purchased what via their Thank You Card Manager and I always snoop and check that out.
Post # 13
- Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden
I actually don’t think very much of it – we registered for it, so it’s not really a surprise anyway, and theoretically, we will buy whatever is left over. I don’t think it’s a problem!
Post # 14
I couldn’t say if it’s right or wrong but I can see why people do it. At some point, there will come a time when all you have left may be expensive items that some people may not be able to afford at all. People do generally shop last minute. So if there anything that you forgot to add (lower priced items for example) or if you want to update it for any reason, you need to know what is going on with it, so in that case snooping (for lack of a better term) is a good idea.
Post # 15
I am a full fledged registry stalker and I proudly admit it. It might ruin the surprise a teeny tiny bit but it’s fun to guess who bought what and then see if you’re right at the shower! At least that’s my view of it.
The main reason I stalk my registry is because I want to make sure I’m not running out of gifts in any certain price range. If the registry starts running low, I’ll know to add more stuff to it. I don’t want to overload my registry right off the bat so we tried to stick to things we really really needed and really really wanted (which is still a good bit of stuff) but our guest list is over 200 people so there’s a good chance I’ll be adding things before this whole deal is over with.
Post # 16
I snoop everyday! There, I said it! hahaha