Post # 1
So my boyfriend and I will be together 4 years this coming October. He will be 26 this year and I will be 25. We are interested in buying a house within the next year or so & I’m concerned about making such a large purchase before getting engaged. He hasn’t mentioned proposing or marriage or anything. How would it even be possible for him to save for an engagement ring if he’s saving for a house? I feel like my time will never come I got this brilliant idea that maybe he was saving money for a ring and thinking about proposing in October for our anniversary, but I think that’s just wishful thinking…
Should I bring this up to him?
Post # 3
@sparklypinkkitty: Definitely! Y’all haven’t discussed marriage AT ALL?? I find that strange since you’re talking about buying a house. A house is a HUGE committment!
Definitely talk to him and find out where your relationship is going before you make the leap to home ownership. You don’t want to be dealing with the hassle of owning a home if you are not headed for marriage.
Post # 4
@sparklypinkkitty: Yes, you should talk with him about it.
Post # 5
@sparklypinkkitty: it doesn’t have to be a huge emotional confrontation, which it will turn into if you don’t discuss it soon. Just bring it up casually when he pictures you being engaged/married by. If you’re not happy with those timelines, tell him yours and explain you’ll need to compromise. The ball isn’t always in the mans court. We’re entitled to have a say in our future too!
Post # 6
@sparklypinkkitty: I got my proposal the week before we closed on our first house 🙂 I would definitely just talk to your SO about it, you never know if he just might be planning for both at the same time.
Post # 7
Definitely talk about it! I started to think about it one day and just kinda asked him where he was at and if he thought of marriage. He planned to propose this winter (couldn’t believe he was thinking about it!) but since I wanted to get engaged he proposed last October (2 months after I first asked about it). It’s definitely possible to buy a ring and house with proper saving/payment plans, etc. Just see where he’s at. If he says he can’t because he’s buying a house or isn’t ready to settle down, etc I would have an issue with his priorities.
Post # 8
@LadyBlackheart: +1 Deffo A Ring Before Home, Thats How I Done It lol
Post # 9
@sparklypinkkitty: unless you would like to sit back and let someone else plan out YOUR future, then yes, you need to talk to him to make sure you are on the same page.
Post # 10
If you’re going to have a future together, you need to be open about what you expect from the relationship. If you’re able to discuss buying property, you should be comfortable discussing marriage.
Post # 11
Before buying a house you should discuss what type of timeline you both expect. He may not want to get married. I’m not saying he doesn’t want to be with you but some people really don’t want to get married.
Post # 12
Hi, thanks ladies. I’ll bring it up to him, but I’m not sure how. I don’t want it to seem like I’m some wedding crazed weirdo and I don’t want to make it awkward between us lol