(Closed) Afraid my wedding will be boring!

posted 5 years ago in Reception
Post # 16
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Bumble bee

This isnt meant to be harsh, but I went to a similar wedding and it was SO boring. A couple major differences- the wedding I went to was on New Years Day at 9am. lots of guests, including me, were so hungover and miserable. Also, they only serves bacon, deviled eggs, and mini sandwiches (but called it a brunch reception… #stillbitter) and there was more like 100 people there. They also played NO music. So, I would say that you should make sure to have some background music playing. You never go to bars or restaurants without music, so why do it a party/ wedding? I think with music and plenty of  food you’ll be good to go. I am for the photo booth idea, and I also like the lawn games suggestion from PP!

Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2017 - Ocean front

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cmartin14:  out of 100 people, just you and the kiddos danced….did you hire a DJ? 

My hopes are that even the non dancers go outside of their comfort zone for my sake to help create the upbeat and  fun vibe I’m praying  (and paying for as we hired a DJ) on our big day.  :+)

I’m sure everyone had fun and it was great, but it just seems sad that no one got up to dance….how did that make you feel as that’s one of my biggest fears actually, that’s why I’m asking? :+(

Post # 18
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Newbee

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harleybeachbride6:  Yes, mostly; one of my bridesmaids (who’s handicapped) actually danced with me and so did my husband some of the time. Then at the last song a few couples from my husband’s side danced for the last few minutes but that was it. Yeah, I was disappointed that nobody really danced but I had a feeling that would happen because nobody in our circles likes to dance anyway. I prepared myself for that beforehand so it wasn’t as sad to me as you might think but we did end the reception an hour early because “it was time to call it a night.” It was a beautiful day and I’m sure everybody appreciated it but it certainly wasn’t a raging party. That might have been different if we served alcohol but, like I said, I wouldn’t change that for my dad’s sake. I’d suggest, unless you’be invited an alcoholic or oppose drinking, to serve alcohol so people loosen up and are more likely to dance. I’d also go around and try encouraging people and couples to get on the dance floor- hell, that’s what I had to do for the garter toss 😂

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

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rebeccasum:  Have you thought about adding some games? Like I went to a wedding that had a corner with board games. My sister is getting married and they have some outdoor space and she is having cornhole/bags (we call it cornhole, some people call it bags), giant jenga, and a few other yard games. 

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2017 - Ocean front

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cmartin14:  your gonna laugh….I’M the alky at this wedding! Haha

I’ll be 18 yrs sober when I marry and plan to have an open bar….I’ll admit I wish I COULD drink w everyone to loosen up but I quit for a REASON!! Lol

I’m ok having booze and plus as you said….I want people to get loose and have fun! :+)

Now-if I was in early sobriety this would be different but I’ll be ok they are just thoughts cuz I’ll be so darn nervous it’s hard NOT to think it would calm me down but…..no go on the booze for this bee!! LOL

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee

I thought/think the same thing! But.. FI’s side like to dance and have a good time…we should be ok. We are having roughly 100 people with a DJ. I did buy an instagram photo prop (design from etsy) and got glow necklaces (~15 kids and lots of kids at heart) so I thought it would make the dancing “more fun” lol we’ll see! 

Post # 22
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Busy bee

I am not a big fan of dancing… but I love music! Make sure you have an awesome playlist set up.

Post # 23
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Newbee

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harleybeachbride6:  Lol! I’m glad to hear that you’ve been sober for 18 years and I’m sure your guests will have fun at your wedding 🙂

Post # 24
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: November 2017

I love that idea. Photo booths are fun. The time will go so quick. Ours is small too – 14 people if that. We dont like dancing or noisy music so will just have a guitarist playing to the atmosphere. It could jazz things up or down. It is your day. Do it your way and you will love it. Get chatting, thank guests and the time will fly. They will all know it is small. Enjoy and all the best!

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

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rebeccasum:  Wow..we are having the EXACT same amount of guests at our wedding next Friday 🙂 As long as you have some music in the background…people normally vibe and enjoy themselves with a few drinks and company that way on a normal Friday night. Why would a wedding be different? Your wedding will be great!! 🙂

Post # 26
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Hi Bee! I had pretty much the same exact wedding a few weeks ago, but with a few more guests, and I had the same exact worries as you! We wanted a laid back non traditional reception and neither of us like to dance (nor do our families) so we just had a nice dinner, good drinks, background music and lawn games (it was an outdoor venue). And guess what, everyone had an amazing time! We had giant jenga set up and that was a huge hit…highly recommend if you have somewhere to put it! So, I’m here to put your mind at ease. You and your guests will all have a great time, trust me!

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2027

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rebeccasum:  I remember going to weddings when I was a child that were quite boring. None of all this entertainment that couples go to such expense to provide today. I now realize that the adults at these weddings probably had a very good time chatting with friends and family they had not seen in a while. And really, looking back on it, I probably really had a great time running around and being a child. 

If you have to go in debt to keep your guests entertained, then your priorities really need to be rethought. 

I really hope my wedding just seems like a big family gathering, cause we don’t have enough in my family, and it won’t cost us a fortune. Plus, the earlier the guests leave, the sooner I have my husband to myself.

When my children get martied, I definitely will offer them the cash to start their new lives, if they choose a smaller wedding. 

Post # 28
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

That sounds so nice and intimate! I would definitely have music in the background! Good food, booze and a laid back atmosphere sounds like a beautiful time!

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I’m actually the voice of experience now that I survived our wedding three weeks ago. So I bring wisdom! Just think of me as the ghost of Christmas past. 😀 

I had the exact same fears about our wedding and everything turned out great! We did have more guests, about 70, but it was basically a big dinner party with lots of drinks and mingling. No dancing and we didn’t even have activities like your fun-sounding photobooth and s’mores bar. Heck, you couldn’t even hear the music in the room because the sound system was so crappy! And you know what? Everyone seemed to have a blast. Many guests who knew I’d been stressing reassured me that they loved it. Every time I looked up people were chatting at the bar or having animated conversations with the other people at their tables. I got a chance to really sit and talk with our guests, which was fantastic because I always hear that the day is a busy blur for the couple but that wasn’t the case for us. 

So what if 100% of your guests don’t like the reception you planned? It’s one night of their lives that they have to suffer and I bet they’ll survive. That was the attitude I went into our wedding with and it turned out to be unnecessary, but I realized I can’t control other people’s feelings so all I could do was put together the best wedding we could afford that reflects us as a couple. For us that means lots of beer and good food and less emphasis on entertainment. Turns out our friends and family were all A-OK with that and happily drank the night away!

 

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