(Closed) afraid of birth control???

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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7291 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I feel the same way at times! Sadly, we all come with the right gear and parts to make babies, so if you want to go against nature you have to play games.

How about Natural family planning with some condoms thrown in the mix on unsafe days? I highly suggest reading Taking Charge of Your Fertility [ TCOYF] and seeing what you think about NFP and if it would be a fit for your marriage. The book is amazing, and really really opened my eyes about my system and how it worked etc.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I’m on the pill but I understand why you are very hesitant. For me it has done wonderful things because I use to have 12-14 day periods. Now they are 4. I use to have horrific cramps now I never do. I don’t like putting unnatural things into my body either but I also don’t want a baby right now!

I am thinking about doing the IUD as well. Take a look at this website. It helped me with some info for sure. There’s also the implant which goes in your arm.

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I agree that you should read Taking Charge of Your Fertility.  If you would like, you can even use this method with the non-hormonal IUD.  Overall, the IUD might not be for you.  Even though the chance of risks is small, it still might be enough to make it not worth it for you.

There is a website that you can read for stories about IUDs, it’s called IUD Divas.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Well I understand the dislike of taking meds, I am the same way but I have been on the pill for some time now because it was the best choice for me. You do get a period on most pills, there are only certain types where you do not, and i agree that it’s only natural for you to get a period.  I still get one, it’s just lighter. I think you have more risk of infertility with the IUD which can result in PID and lots of problems with tissue growing around it, etc. If I had to pick between the two, I would do a lost doe bcp.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

The implant and pills and the like are no more or less dangerous than the copper IUD, so it sounds like you should either continue your current methods or look more into methods of natural family planning.

Post # 9
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7291 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Stace126:  Def. look into  Natural Family planning! Very inexpensive, or maybe free if you already own a thermometer 🙂

Post # 10
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4324 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@Stace126:  I feel ya. I’m the same way. Can’t do hormonal stuff for various reasons, but am unreasonably terrified of a metal object being shoved in my uterus. 

I do spermacide, and it’s always worked for me when I’ve been diligent with making sure it’s in EVERY.SINGLE.TIME. we are intimate. But that’s the key. You can not forget to use it, and that’s a bit inconvenient, but no more so than using condoms.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

My Darling Husband got a vasectomy, best idea ever! We don’t want kids, so that wasn’t an issue for us, but it can be reversed. There was no copay with his insurance, so it may be cheap for you too. I would definitely look into it if I were you. 

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@MsPoodles:  I wish Darling Husband would entertain that idea, personally! Why should the woman always have to be the one to turn to birth control, dammit!? Le sigh. 

But seriously, I can understand getting nervous thinking about a surgical procedure, so I can’t fault him too much.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@JulesSchnooks:

This may not matter to your Darling Husband, but it wasn’t very invasive. It was done as an outpatient procedure, and I was even allowed to stay in the room with him the whole time. I won’t lie, it looked rough, but it wasn’t really. He recovered very quickly (just a couple of days), and he wasn’t in much pain at any point (more just uncomfortable). I think a lot of men are scared because they look at it like a major surgical procedure, but, to be honest, it was much less invasive than my breast augmentation (which also wasn’t very painful, difficult, etc.) Anyway, I just wanted you to know that it isn’t nearly as bad as many people think.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@MsPoodles:  Oh yeah, *I* know this, but lots of guys don’t want anyone with a scalpel or anything resembling it coming near their junk. If it were up to me, we’d do it in a heartbeat. Unfortunately, I can’t make that decision. 🙁  Even though I make the reasonable argument you just did, there’s still that inherent discomfort there. 

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Would you be ok with the NuvaRing?  It has hormones but they don’t act systemically like BCPs.  You put it in, leave it 3 weeks, take it out for one week (for your period) and then put another one in.  That may be something you might look into.

Post # 16
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169 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

Why not just keep using condoms? I’m not all that into hormonal birth control either (although am on it at the moment for other reasons) and never really seem to see condoms as a mood killer if you stick them on at the start rather than waiting until just being you “do it” lol.

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