- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
I am the kind of person who is very careful about what i put in my body. I really don’t like taking medications (even OTC) unless I HAVE to. I pay attention to what I eat and the health and beauty products I use.
For as long as I can remember, I’ve NEVER wanted to take “the pill” or any other kind of hormonal birth control. This is mainly because every single woman I have ever know who has been on hormonal BC has eventually had some type of problem with it — cysts, heavy periods, even infertility.
I also do not think it is healthy or natrual to not have a period. And I do have some other other hormonal problems so after many lenghty discussions with my PCP and gynocologist, we’ve decided it would be in my best interest to not ever go on hormonal birth control.
This wasn’t a problem, especially because I was not in an intimate relationship until I started dating my fiance. We’ve been using condoms and spermicide for BC for as long as we’ve been dating, and it’s worked just fine, mainly because we don’t live together and the sex (unfortunately) is not all that often.
However, we’re going to be living together and getting married soon, so we have talked at great lengths about a non-hormonal IUD. At first I was very open to the idea, but honestly the more I learn about it and talk to people, the more afraid I get. I’m afraid of the pain of insertion. I’m afraid it’ll “poke through” or “expel” itself. I’m afraid I’ll have such bad cramps and heavy periods that I won’t be able to function. And I will be SO paranoid about it not being effective. (I’m still paranoid about condoms/spermicide being effective. Sometimes it really messes with my sex drive b/c I’m petrified of getting pregnant by accident).
But I don’t know what other choices we have. I REFUSE to take hormonal BC. I’m afraid of all of those side effects — everything from weight gain to a higher risk of cancer. I mean, I know pretty much everything causes cancer nowadays but if you can avoid at least one thing, why wouldn’t you? (and it’s appalling to me that it says blatantly on their website “increased risk of cancer!” not to mention blood cots, stroke — a girl I went to high school with actually had a stroke at, like, 21 b/c of birth control! How is this okay?!?! WTF?
And every other form of BC is just annoying — condoms, the sponge, diaphram? UGH, so messy and inconvenient.
I just really have no idea what to do. My fiance is trying to be patient with me but I know he’s getting frustrated. Sometimes I wish I could just “suck it up” like the millions of other women and just get the IUD and chuck my concerns to the curb.
If we weren’t undecided on kids, I’d seriously tell my fiance to get a vasectomy!
ERGH! Anyone else feeling like this??!!