Post # 1
Hi y’all…I have been having a little degree of anxiety about being engaged and I have finally been able to put my finger on it! I think (to a certain extent) I am afraid of not being my daddy’s little girl anymore.
Ever since I was a little peanut I have always been close to my dad. Every time he laid on the couch to watch tv I would always hop on him and lay in his arms as he ran his hand on my head.
Whenever I was sick he would always go to the grocery store and buy me coloring books and icee’s while my mom stayed home and made me chicken noodle soup.
Whenever a boy broke my heart as a teenager he was always there to hold me and tell me how awful boys were and how he was always there to comfort and protect me.
Every car problem I had he was there! Whenever I needed $20 to go to the movies with my friends, he was there. Whenever I needed a Video Game partner he was there!
He has always been there for me…emotionally, financially, physically (for hugs that is). The point is whenever I needed someone to protect me, he was always the one.
Now, I love my fiance and he would take a bullet for me, but does anyone else feel the same way? Little scared of not having daddy to go to for things anymore. I mean once you marry, all your problems you go to your hubby now. Sure you”ll always be daddys girl but things change….
Please tell me I’m not the only one feeling this way… 🙁
Post # 3
I’m 31, been married for a little bit now, and have been living away from my parents since I finished college (8 years?).
I’m still my daddy’s little girl. Our relationship has evolved, but it’s still as strong as ever. I can’t wait until the day I can bring him my own kids and they can be Grandpa’s little girl or boy.
Post # 4
i feel the same too! My dad has always been there, nothing was ever too much for him to do for me!
Post # 5
@Floridian Belle: This is the sweetest post. I have to say you are VERY lucky. I thought I was a daddy’s girl until he left my mom and me and my sister… and we haven’t talked in 10+ years. Your dad is what they call a real man.
You’ll always be daddy’s girl. You can still consult your dad on things – and make sure you do. He will always be there for you 🙂
Post # 6
Last night I went and had dinner at my parent’s house because Darling Husband was working. Then I went to a friend’s house for a while and stopped back at my parent’s house to pick up a frozen pizza for my hubby and my Dad loaded me up with two pizzas (one of my DH’s favorite kind and one of mine), two cans of soda, tons of fruit snacks, cookies, and pop tarts.
The point: I am married and have been for a year, we own our own house and support ourselves 100%, we are completely independent, and I am still Daddy’s little girl.
It is okay to be scared of how things will change after marriage but I guarentee you will always be close to your father.
Post # 7
You sound very sweet and young (maybe?). You will still be Daddy’s Little Girl! Things will change a bit with your dad, but your relationship with your husband will grow stronger as you lean on each other. Make sure you still spend time with your dad. It’s natural to be feeling this way. 🙂
Post # 8
I’m still daddys girl. Marriage doesn’t change it.
Post # 9
Your post made me cry. That’s SO sweet and you’re SO lucky to have a dad that amazing. I hope one day my Fiance has such a great relationship with our (future) daughter! I hope you do something extra special for him on your wedding day, it really sounds like he deserves it!
I am not really “daddy’s little girl” – my parents were GREAT parents, but I was always closer with my mom, who has been my best friend all my life. I cannot imagine what it’s going to be like getting married and moving out (FI and I live at home with parents) and not having her there 24/7. So, I understand where you’re coming from.
I wish I had some words of advice except that this journey that you’re about to embark on – this second chapter in your life – will be amazing and your daddy will be there for it and you will always be daddy’s little girl in his eyes, I’m certain of it!
Post # 10
maybe a change of perspective would help! it is weird for me to sometimes think that i will be a wife soon in the sense that, in some symbolic (ie: name change) ways, i will no longer be a member of the family i grew up with. but then i look at my Fiance and how amazingly wonderful he is and how we get to become our own family, where he will be an amazing dad to our little girl (or boy) someday! definitely a good trade off!
Post # 11
I’m in the same boat. Your post totally described my and my dad too! I was always his atv and fishing buddy. When I got my sega when I was 5 we would spend hours playing it. Now sometimes I’ll call my dad and we’ll talk for hours. My mom said hes gotten a little emotional talking about my wedding. But I think its important that your dad (and mine too) that you still need him and want to spend time with him.
Post # 12
Aw, that is really sweet. I love my dad so much, too! I’m lucky, I live just down the street from my parents so I get to see them a lot. I bet your dad would love it if you wrote him a card or a letter with those sentiments! Maybe that would help you get some closure, too!
Post # 13
Awww, don’t worry! You will ALWAYS be Daddy’s little girl. He will always be there for you, married or not. Besides, I’m sure you’ll still need advice on things – finances, buying a house, maintaining a house, cars, marraige, kids, etc.
Post # 14
I too, am Daddy’s Little Girl. I understand the complete trust you have in your daddy, and how he’s proven his love and devotion again and again in your life, but now is the time to let your husband prove that he can and will be that man for you too. Think of it this way: you’re not losing your daddy, you’re gaining your hubby. You get to have two men in your life to love and protect you!
That’s what I’m telling myself.
Post # 15
Not to thread-jack, but I have a devil’s advocate question:
It’s all cutsey-wootsie for a woman to be a “daddy’s girl” and no one seems to find anything wrong with that (based on the responses in this thread… “you can still be a daddy’s girl”). But when a fiancee/wife comes complains that her fiance/husband is a “momma’s boy,” the reaction is: he needs to cut the cord and be a man. Why is this?
OP, this sentence stuck out at me: after you were talking about your dad always supporting you financially, emotionally, etc.: “Little scared of not having daddy to go to for things anymore.” I mean this constructively, not critically, but if you are an adult old and mature enough to get married, you shouldn’t really have this kind of dependent relationship with your father at this point in your life.
I had two great parents growing up, and being an only child I was lucky enough to have a very strong, close connection to both my parents. I was, by definition, both a “daddy’s girl” and a “mommy’s girl” growing up. It was after I grew up and moved out of the house when my parents stopped supporting me that the relationships’ dynamics changed – not getting married. But I’m still just as close to them now as I was when I was a kid; my dad and I talk for an hour every single day; just in an adult-to-adult way instead of an adult-to-child way.
Getting married isn’t going to change how much you love your dad, how close you are with your dad, how much your dad was there for you and still will be there for you. You’ll always be his daughter. 🙂
Post # 16
@FutureMrsLAL: A daughter is a daughter for life. A man is a son until he takes a wife.
The double standard isn’t fair…it just…is.