(Closed) Afraid our Wedding will be boring compared to theirs

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
Member
739 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I’ve been to many weddings over the years, so many I can’t even count.  You know what I’ve learned?  No two weddings are the same.  To give you examples of just a few weddings I’ve been to:

  • Traditional church wedding with catered buffet reception
  • Ceremony at an upscale hotel with elaborate cocktail hour and reception with open bar and dancing all night
  • Church wedding with reception catered by bride’s friends in the church’s gymnasium
  • Backyard ceremony with catered soul food and mexican food reception
  • Church wedding with banquet hall reception & square dancing (hey… it was the 80’s in rural Pennsylvania!!!)
  • Wedding at a deaf church with catered reception at a hip art museum
  • Church wedding with country club reception
  • Church wedding with self-catered reception at a community senior center

Very different weddings, right? If you asked me which of those weddings were the “best” or even my favorite, I couldn’t tell you.  Each wedding was beautiful in its own way and each wedding was representative of the bride and groom!  Some of the weddings were fancier than others.  Some of the weddings were more creative.  But, I loved seeing the bride and groom’s personalities and preferences shine through in each.

Do what feels right to yourself and your fiance.  Celebrate your love the way you want to and I’m sure it will be beautiful!!!

Post # 18
Member
5976 posts
Bee Keeper

The weddings that I remember most are the ones where the bride and groom look so deliriously happy that nothing else matters. Yes, they had beautiful flowers and fun songs to walk into, but ultimately, if a bride was completely stressed out the day of, it showed. And you could always feel the tension when it came to that at a wedding.

So stop comparing, step back and enjoy the day for what it is. The day that you’re marrying the love of your life! It will show if you’re bissfully happy!

Post # 19
Member
379 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Youre wedding sounds great.  Forever doesnt seem like a very appropriate aisle walk song.  But that is just my opinion.  I guess I am having a lot more older people at my wedding and they would not like that song.

Also, I have heard the same readings repeated at numerous weddings.  They are popular for a reason.  In the Catholic church they do the same readings and the same vows over and over for centuries.

Post # 20
Member
529 posts
Busy bee

Your wedding should be true to you and your Fiance, just as I’m sure your friends were true to themselves. Half your guests won’t notice the things you mentioned.

Post # 21
Member
71 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We actually haven’t been to any weddings since we’ve been engaged, so I haven’t had this exact feeling, but I think I have gotten a little jaded by reading so many wedding blogs and magazines.  We went to dinner at FI’s friends’ house last weekend and mentioned off-hand that we were having a custom mac & cheese bar at our reception and they were like “THAT IS THE COOLEST THING I’VE EVER HEARD!”  And all of a sudden, I was like, yeah, you know what, it is pretty cool.

All this to say, it sounds like your wedding will be amazing and maybe you’re just too deep in your own planning to realize how great it’s going to be and how much your guests will enjoy it.  Don’t let your FI’s flashy friends make you feel bad about your wedding!!!  A wedding on the beach sounds AMAZING to me! 🙂

The topic ‘Afraid our Wedding will be boring compared to theirs’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors