Post # 1
So today we celebrated my youngest birthday, she turned 1. We invited about 19 people, and over 66 came. I am afraid this will happen at our wedding, too many uninvited people. We had alot of fun, but went you are per person the prices really go up. We have big family. I am afraid that if we sent around 50 invites more that 200 people will show up…. our family dont look like they get the concept of reservations, they invite their friends, family and anyone else they know.
Post # 3
@brokeninnj: Eek!! On my mom’s side that’s fairly common. I think it’s a cultural thing. It’s probably totally “tacky” but what one of my cousins did for her reception was write on the reception card “Please bring this invitation and present it to security” and hired a bouncer! He actually made each and every person show their invitation (that had #X seats reserved) to get in the door!
Post # 3
Well, maybe (as I don’t know your family), they see a birthday party as not a formal occassion so it was okay to invite other people.
Post # 4
You could do RSVP cards that say have we have x seats reserved in your honor. And then you could just really try to spread through word of mouth that only the people listed on the invite can come. Maybe even send like FB messages or texts after the fact and say I can’t wait to see you and Jane at the wedding, since we didn’t invite a lot of people maybe we’ll have some time to catch up! This could all help with most of your guests but IDK what to od if you have some really bold people on your list who just won’t listen to any one.