Post # 1
Not because I’m worried about losing my job, but because I work with and manage a bunch of guys (I’m an engineer/lab manager) and I’m usually the one climbing on ladders and rearranging equipment so I’m worried that the second I tell them they won’t let me do anything anymore… I know it sounds silly but after I told my family they didn’t want me to do simple things like break down a tent (we were camping the weekend I told them) or float down a river on a boogy board… I am in decent shape and my midwife told me to just not do more than I did before, and stop if I ever feel off balance (which shouldn’t be for a while), and that I don’t have to act like I’m sick so that makes me feel like I’m not being completely ridiculous…
Has anyone else been in a similar situation? If so, how did it go??
Post # 2
Oh, I’m also 13w3d so I’m not sure how long I can continue to really hide either… I’m looking a little pudgy but that kind of happened while I was on vacation so I’ve been banking on everyone thinking I over ate on vacation haha…
Post # 3
Can’t really help with the boss situation, but it isn’t just the shifting center of gravity that can make you dizzy in pregnancy. Dizziness is pretty common around the end of the first trimester/start of second, due to the relaxation of your blood vessels which causes lower blood pressure.
Post # 4
PP is right about the dizziness. But I do know what you mean about everyone immediately thinking you’re about to break as soon as they find out you’re pregnant. If you can hide it for a few more weeks, then go for it. You also don’t need to make a huge announcement. Maybe just tell your boss, and let word spread on its own? If you don’t make a big deal out of announcing it, maybe the reaction won’t be as “big”.
Post # 5
If it does come up after you announce, maybe you could explain what your midwife told you. Then tell them, “I really appreciate you guys looking out for me. lets make a deal that you won’t act like I’m about to break all the time, and in return I’ll be honest and vocal about my limits and when I do need your help, I promise to let you know.”
they may may not have been around a pregnant lady a lot and really not know what you can or can’t do. In the end it’s sweet they would care so much.
Post # 6
Hi! I’m a biomedical engineer and had very similar concerns. But when it comes down to it, I don’t want to put myself in a situation where I could fall, breath dangerous chemicals, or otherwise injury a baby. It doesn’t matter if you’re in great condition or not, babies are delicate and over exerting yourself is not worth it. That being said, my doctor said pregnancy is not a disease and I can still work out etc but not to push myself (ie don’t train for a marathon if I’m not already in marathon running status).
I told my boss when I was around 14 weeks. I was told I’d have a difficult time getting pregnant, and if it turns into a high risk pregnancy I wanted to besure he knew. I did tell my HR rep when I first found out I was pregnant because I wanted to get a report of anything I could be exposed to (which they’re required to have). When I did tell my boss that I am very career driven and value my job and want to be able to manage my maternity leave so that the business is not impacted. I also told him that the doctor has already said traveling in the last month or two is not a good idea (I asked the doctor already bc I was supposed to go to a wedding). My boss took it really well (which I was suprised about bc he’s kind of sexist). He said it’s the 21st century, I can skype in / video conference anything I couldn’t make and that he’s not worried and we’ll have a roll on/ roll off project plan for getting me ramped off and back on my projects.
It’s kind of a weird thing; as a woman in a technology field you want to be viewed as equal to men. BUT being pregnant is NOT equal. We do need to be mindful of the situations we put ourselves in while being pregnant, and we can’t expect to do everything we did while we weren’t pregnant; and not just because of a big belly. Employers are required to recognize this.
Hope this helps. Good luck telling your boss!
Post # 7
It’s also to cover their ass. If you get hurt on the job, that’s workmanship comp and potential law suits.
my boss is treating me the same way- can’t vacuum the office, no taking trash out… Stuff I do at home..