(Closed) Afraid to tell waiting friend you're engaged?

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Did you have any friends you were nervous to tell about the engagement?

    Yes, jealousy was an issue

    Yes, they didn't like my SO

    Nope, they were all just happy for us

    Nope, I didn't care what they thought

    Other

  • Post # 17
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    230 posts
    Helper bee

    I’m not engaged yet but I have thought about this exact issue 🙂

    I think jealousy will be an issue with two of them. The one friend I feel like I can’t say anything positive happening in my life to her without her being fake-sounding about how happy she is for me, or completely ignoring me. Seriously, she’s been single for a few years and is very bitter about it so if I talk about my boyfriend I live with at all and our future over e-mail or messenger she’s guaranteed to change the subject or stop replying. There was a girl she’s not friends with but knows a four hour drive away from us, she’s not on her Facebook, she doesn’t like her much, found out she was engaged by snooping on Facebook and I had to hear about how unfair that was and how mad it makes her that other people get engaged and she can’t get a boyfriend. So when I do get engaged, which I’m thinking will be soonish, I’ll be terrified to tell her.

     

    The other chick… She has told me upfront soon after becoming friends that if I get engaged first she will be so jealous because she’s been with her man for a few years longer and has a house with him. That’s the only thing. I know she’d be happy for me, but the conversations after that would be about her and how she doesn’t have a ring yet.

     

    So I get how it would be hard to tell others!

     

    Post # 18
    Member
    347 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I waited the longest to tell one of my friend that is waiting, I don’t know if its waiting I think he doesn’t want marriage, but after I did tell her she was tweeting and fb things like always the bridesmaid never the bride! 

    Post # 19
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    2532 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I have a friend who is single but desperately wishes to find a husband and have children. She has always been happy and supportive of our relationship but I do make sure not to make a big deal of our relationship as I know it just reminds her that she is still single. She was one of the first of my friends I told I was engaged, mainly because I wanted her to hear it from me than anyone else. She was happy but I was worried about her reaction. 

    I think, as much as someone might be disappointed that it happened to you before then, I would hope they wouldn’t show it to you…that’s just selfish. 

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