(Closed) After an Emotional Affair…

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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54 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I am so sorry you are going through that. I know many people might not agree with me, but I find it strange and unacceptable for my bf/fiance/husband to develop a close relationship with another woman after we’ve already been together. Unless, of course, she is a mutual friend. People might see that as being jealous or possessive (I’m a Scorpio, so maybe) but I’m just not ok with my fiance latching on to another female and building a bond with them. I don’t blame you for being upset about this because I would be extremely furious. You said that you let yourself go after you had kids. Why don’t you just pamper yourself for a change. Go out and get your hair and makeup done, get a manicure and pedicure, and get a new sexy outfit. And then treat yourself to a night out. Build your confidence back up because I am sure you are a beautiful woman. And a man cannot resist a confident woman and he will be kicking himself for pushing you away.

Post # 5
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5075 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

what he did is wrong and it is not a reflection on you.  Move on by concentrating on you and your kids.

Post # 6
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9687 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@blondie634:  I agree, this is wonderful advice. 

OP:  Start learning to take care of yourself – for yourself!  Regardless of whether your marriage works out or not, this is YOUR life!  Everyone goes through hard times but you don’t have to let it keep you down forever.  If he did what he did, he hurt you and he was wrong.  Very wrong.  Now you have separated from him, which in my mind is a good thing.  I would consider what he did cheating, even though not everyone would.  Regardless of him, or what he does or does not do, though, you still need to put yourself first in your own life.  Learn to love yourself, and everything in your life will begin to fall in place.  It sounds cliche, I know, but it really is true.  Do whatever it takes to start taking even small steps towards self-love.  You never know, the man of your dreams could be around the corner or maybe your husband will get a wake-up call.  Either way, do it for you, you deserve to live well.

Post # 7
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263 posts
Helper bee

You’ve got a PM.

Post # 8
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1245 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Sidd_Jones:  I second what Blondie said. You should start doing things for you. Every woman needs “ME” time. Go pamper yourself and do things that you enjoy doing. After women have kids, they are more likely to let themselves go because of the added stress and responsibility, but it is important to continue to pamper yourself and have time for yourself. Counseling is great for you to both talk through your issues and problems. I hope everything works out for you!

Post # 9
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9483 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I agree with Blondie.  I’d take you out myself if I could.  (hugs)

Post # 11
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Newbee

I also PM’d you. (((Hugs)))

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