(Closed) After getting engaged, did you get any weird questions?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
16195 posts
Honey Beekeeper

A makeup artist at a bridal show asked us when we planned on conceiving.

To me, that’s far more personal than just asking when we were going to have kids. I freaked out.

Post # 4
6247 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

Not a weird question but a strange comment.

A colleague congratulated me, but then she said “Oh, I mean ‘best wishes’ to you, and ‘congratulations’ to your fiance.  I read somewhere that you shouldn’t say ‘congratulations’ to the female half of the engaged couple, because it makes it seem like she ‘caught him.'” 

I laughed because she actually made the motion like she was reeling in a large fish.

Apparently it’s an old etiquette thing.

Post # 6
542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Not a question, but when I had explained my engagement was a complete surprise, one person said “Oh good! I’m glad it wasn’t an ultimatum!”…


Post # 7
4352 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@MapleMoose:  I had a couple of other people tell me they couldn’t remember which phrase to say to which person, and I told them I enjoyed hearing both and not to worry about it lol.

Post # 8
257 posts
Helper bee

I don’t know if this counts, but before we officailly announced our intentions(engagment was a mutual comeing together) I got a wedding planner in the mail from his mom “Just in case I needed one” I asked Fiance if he told them and he said he only said I was the one and he was “going to marry me” and that was it


If we were the suprise type of couple, she would have totally ruined it!

Post # 9
225 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@MapleMoose:  Ha, I remember reading that somewhere, that’s it’s poor etiquette to say congrats.

Post # 10
16195 posts
Honey Beekeeper

@MapleMoose:  I remember that as one of Emily’s lines from Gilmore Girls! 😉

Post # 11
664 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I had a lot of “finally!” and “it’s about time”.  Those kinda made me feel bad (FI were dating for 4.5 years before engagement).

Post # 12
2401 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I got asked when I was going to quit my job… is it common for people to quit their jobs to plan a wedding?

Post # 13
306 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Yep, Fiance works with his dad, and after the engagment weekend, shared the news (although he already knew it was comming because Fiance is close to his mom) and FI’s dad says… Do you have any *other* news to share? (implying that i might be pregnant).

I laughed it off and so did he. FI’s first marriage was rushed into because of an unplanned pregnancy- his dad was covering the bases…

Although, it might bee Too Much Information, but .. I’m 5 days late and this would be the WORST possible timing for a surprise baby.

Post # 15
7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

To one of my friends I said “He proposed!” and she said “You said yes?”

It was the strangest reaction of them all. She later explained it had nothing to do with Darling Husband but that she was shocked I would get married again. It was just a very defeating question to be asked in the moment lol.

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