- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
Soooo I’ve been buzzing around WeddingBee for awhile now, mostly to help ease my own “waiting woes”, and so far it has worked. Today, however, is a totally different story. In my smug little mind, I assumed we’d be engaged shortly after Easter when we went to see my family (who live five hours away). Nope. I’m 27, and nearly every other week someone I know gets engaged–I’ve got quite a large Facebook so I expect it I guess. I mean, I guess it’s kind of a given that wedding/baby posts are everywhere.
Yesterday my old co-worker got engaged. Who has barely been dating her Boyfriend or Best Friend for a year. The same co-worker who absolutely insisted we go to a wedding fair last fall with me pretending I was already engaged. Now, the Boyfriend or Best Friend and I have been talking marriage since September of last year, have been dating for 15 months, survived a few months long distance, bouts of unemployment, resulting depression, bankrupcty (him), toxic/unsupportive friends (me), family illnesses, etc. Currently, the boy just started a new job about 3 weeks ago while I’ve been unemployed since Feb due to downsizing.
We became domestic partners about a month ago for insurance reasons, and officially moved in together in April after I’d been spending every night since January. Things are amazing… we’ve got chores split well, annoying habits have been dealt with, we are homebodies but encourage each other to pursue our individual interests, and still can’t get enough of each other physically and emotionally. We get into disagreements maybe once a month but never go to bed angry with each other. In short, he’s everything I never knew I needed, and truly makes me a better woman.
That said, the waiting is killing me. With all of the bad news we’ve had the past year, I feel like our engagement would help smooth out some of the rough patches. You know, give us something to look forward to during the hard times. We’ve already talked to his parents about it, and they have sent me multiple cards/emails welcoming me to the family and telling me how they’ve never seen their son this happy. He calls me his fiancee to co-workers and his own family, and when I ask why it’s not official yet, he’ll joke about how he thought we were already married. Keep in mind, this is a boy from a family with multiple marriages who thinks eloping is the most romantic thing in the world.
On the otherhand, I’ve been dreaming about my wedding and finding my someone since I was a child. The proposal on one knee and a ring after talking to my dad in private, calling my family and friends, planning, having my aunt perform the ceremony, the honeymoon, etc. Obviously, being pretty poor, we’ll have to scale back, but I want it to be as nice as it can be. And I would looooove to start booking things for next Memorial Day Weekend (he picked the date). My mom offered her old engagement ring to us but he still has to ask my parents. I guess I just wish it was my turn already. I’m so sick of waiting–I just want to take the next step in our lives and I’m tired of calling him my boyfriend when it just doesn’t sum up our relationship.
Any advice from you gals would be much appreciated! :-/