(Closed) After party

posted 9 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Is a guest hosting an after party and inviting other guests ahead of our wedding inappropriate?

    There's no problem with this, anyone can host an after party.

    There's no problem with an after party, but to make it a big production is out of line.

    What's happening is rude and implies that this person thinks your wedding is inadequate.

  • Post # 3
    9916 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    What time does your wedding end?  How much detail does this guy know?


    Post # 4
    310 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I think you’re overreacting.  Likelihood, they’ll be tired and will head back to their rooms.  However, if they wanna keep partying on their dime…let them. 

    Post # 6
    10283 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I assume a great deal of your guests are mutual friends, right? If he wants to throw a party in his own suite, you can’t do anything to stop him. Those that attend will do so on their own accord so if they want to keep the party going, they’re more than welcome to. You can’t exactly tell people that they have to go to bed, ya know. 

    FWIW, every after party that I’ve ever attended, including my own, weren’t hosted by the couple so it won’t really cost you much of anything unless you want it to. For example, our after party was at a brewery across the stress from the hotel that we were married at. Those who attended paid for their own beers and apps if they wanted them. Actually, DH and I didn’t even have to pay for ourselves because everyone wanted to treat us.

    So yea, I think you’re overreacting. If you don’t want to plan your own after party then don’t but you can’t control what your friend does.

    Post # 7
    878 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Lots of people do this – why not let him? Can it really do any harm? It’s great he wants to keep celebrating (but probably just wants to keep drinking). You are not obligated to attend or stay.

    Post # 8
    1423 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I don’t think there’s a problem, but I do think maybe he’s being a bit like frat-boy about it and hopefully he doesn’t advertise the party the whole duration of your wedding (and force you guys to attend whatever he’s planning).

    If his verbalization gets out of hand, you can approach him about that, but you can’t stop him from having a party.

    Post # 9
    209 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    tough question and I think everyone’s situation is different.  I am having a morning wedding with the reception ending at 5 pm… we are planning on “hosting” an afterparty at a local restaurant/bar and advertising it through family via word of mouth.  We by no means are paying for the afterparty and will let this be known…

    However, your wedding ends at midnight.  if this friend wants to go out after with some other guests, that would be fine- but a frat-like party at a hotel is out of the question (unless you are game for that type of party)

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