Post # 1
We have the reception restaurant until 9:30PM. I’m OK with calling it a night after 9:30PM, but my groom wants to do more. My groom wants to have an after party. He he suggested having people come over to our place for more drinking/partying.
We’re on a tight budget and I don’t want to have to supply more food and drink. Also, I don’t want to play “hostess” and make sure the house is clean, then clean up the day after. Let alone have to deal with a guest that won’t leave at the end of the night.
What have other couples done/go for an “after party”? What’s a good compromise?
Post # 3
Can you go to a bar afterwards instead? That’s usual standard afterparty destination.
Post # 4
I definitely wouldn’t want to host people at my house afterwards, way too much stress. We went to a piano bar at the hotel after our reception (it ended at 11pm). Maybe do something like that, plan to go to a bar or somewhere where people would pay their own way, you’re still going out for a little after, but then you can leave whenever you want and not have to worry about cleaning.
Post # 5
Go to a local bar you and your friends like. You aren’t responsible for guests drinks, no clean up, and you can leave when you want.
Post # 6
Bar for sure. There’s no way I’d want to host people at my house.
Post # 7
Yuck don’t host people! Definitely have everyone meet you at a bar!
Post # 8
- Wedding: February 2014 - Kentucky Center for the Performing Arts
I think an after reception party is a good idea. I hadn’t heard of the concept until one of my co-workers/friends decided to have one at a bar. She is having an early wedding/reception and wasn’t able to invite everyone b/c of cost. So I think its a great idea…as long as its at a bar and not your home.
Post # 9
I would in NO WAY want people at my house right after the wedding. Like people have said, way too much stress. But we are able to stay at our reception hall 11:00 PM and then we are still planning on going to a bar afterwards. I don’t want the night to end!
Post # 10
In major agreement with pp who suggested going to a bar. We shut our venue down around 11 p.m. and hit up 2-3 bars afterward with a bunch of our guests and wedding party, it was a total blast! The best was the dive bars, followed by 3 a.m. burgers and hot dog carts… and trust me, NO ONE will make you pay for your own drinks when you show up in your wedding gown!
Post # 11
We’re not hosting an after party, but I included on our website that there is a bar in the hotel that is open till 2 am. We may or may not join them but at least our guest have somewhere to go to keep the party going.
Post # 12
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
Definitely a bar. That way you can leave whenever you feel like it, and you don’t have to buy any more drinks for anyone.
Post # 13
@October052013: We didn’t intend to have an after party, it just kind of happened. Since my ceremony, reception and hotel were all in the same location, it was very easy for my party to carry on late into the evening. In addition, because my hotel was in a “boardwalk” type area (lots of shops, restaurants, bars, etc. around a man made lake) there was lots to do within walking distance.
Post # 14
@October052013: NOT at your house! Arrange a meeting place at a local bar, pub, etc.
Post # 15
I agree with PP dont do it at your house. We are doing an after party at the casinos club, so we will go from the reception in the casino to the club. Of course I will be running to the room to change into a party dress dont want to take my wedding dress into a place it could get ruined by spilled drinks 🙂
Post # 16
We had a hotel block set up the night of the wedding. A lot of our family/friends/guests booked so we set up a shuttle to and from the venue. After the wedding we all went up to our rooms, changed into comfy clothes and went down to the lobby bar/lounge and hung-out. It was nice to have the celebration continue until it was time for bed.