(Closed) After Party OR Next Day Brunch – Which would you prefer?

posted 5 years ago in Parties
  • poll: What should we host after the wedding?

    After - Party at the Hotel Bar

    Next Day Brunch

    Both!

    Nothing

  • Post # 2
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    Busy bee

    I was wiped out after our wedding so there’s no way I would plan an after party or even a next day brunch. My bil and his wife had an after party and were so tired they missed their flight the next day for their honeymoon. 

    Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2017 - Mississauga Convention Centre

    I wouldn’t host anything technically you should be on your honeymoon

    Post # 4
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    We did a Saturday wedding, but we did both an afterparty (at a bar, tho) as well as a brunch. We ultimately decided the bar and the brunch would both be optional and guests would pay their own way. I’m sure this was expected at the bar, as we didn’t have a plan where we were heading until late the evening of the wedding, and we clearly communicated the brunch plan in advance and stressed it was entirely optional, since we weren’t covering it.

    Obviously you know your guests but all the weddings of friends my age have been similar and nothing but the food and drink at the actual wedding venue has been included. I have heard no complaints!

    Post # 5
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    Blushing bee

    We did a brunch the next day, and I wouldn’t do it again. We were both so tired that we didn’t get to enjoy it. Same with our guests. I also wouldn’t do the after party. Again, far too tired at the end of the day.

    Post # 6
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    We are doing a casual after party. We will be hosting but our circumstances are different. We have a huge party cabin rented out for the weekend for our wedding party so we will be doing the after party there. We will have booze and smores!! And other food but I’m excited about the smores. I don’t think we will go all night so not a bid deal. 

    Post # 7
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

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    jerseygirl28 :  Nothing. A Sunday wedding means most people are already having to take Monday off of work because they are traveling – which also means people are more likely to want to get an early start. I personally wouldn’t attend an after party because I’d want to get to bed, and I’d probably not attend a brunch because I’d likely already be on the road headed home. 

    All that aside I was sooo exhausted by the end of my wedding I couldn’t imagine trying to have an after party. 

    Post # 8
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    Bee Keeper

    We did brunch, but our whole experience was very casual and self-catered – I was still exhausted.  Is there a reason brunch has to be at said hotel?  Aren’t there any great restaurants nearby?  Cousin did that with a buffet place and it was so, so good.  I’m not into the nightlife and am not into the after party concept (I realize I’m a bore but come on, you were just at a party, with those same people, all day long).  Brunch or nothing, IMO.

    Post # 9
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    Newbee

    We did a post-wedding brunch and absolutely loved it. We live in a different country though, so it was a good opportunity for us to catch up properly with people we hadn’t had a chance to have a conversation with at the wedding. It also gave a few of our guests who had befriended each other to do a post-wedding catch-up and exchange details. We had rented a house for a week for the wedding so it was all held in the same venue. 

    I think it depends on the dynamic of your wedding. But if you can get someone to cater it cheaply (even a food van?) then it can be a great recovery day. 

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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2016 - Galleria Marchetti

    We did both an after party and brunch. We also had a big partying crowd and somehow we stayed until the bar closed at 3am and made it brunch the next day. This was a Saturday though. Our brunch was only for family and the bridal party, so it was much smaller and more of an open house type thing. We did the after party at a bar near our hotels (we had 2 blocks) and then brunch was at the hotel we stayed in.

    I’d think for Sunday not everyone will be partying hard. I’d also consider how many guests are coming from out of town. If most of your guest list is Out of Town and you can afford to host everyone, I think a brunch is a really nice way of seeing people after the wedding. If your friends do like to party, they will find a way to stay up and do so whether you offically host an after party or not.

    ETA: Also consider when you are leaving on your honeymoon. If you leave on Monday do you really want to have stayed up super late the night before and then hosted a bunch of people again that morning? If you are leaving Tuesday, then I say go for it since you have an extra night to recover

    Post # 11
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2017

    I would just prefer a proper wedding that goes all day… I dont get american ‘after parties’ isnt that just part of the actual wedding, basically the night reception?

    always sounds like the couple just cheaping out

    Post # 12
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    Helper bee

    I think part of it depends on your age and that of those you would want to attend. In my early 20’s, an afterparty wouldve been awesome. Now that I’m closer to 40, I want to be in bed no later than midnight at the absolute latest. Brunch for me would be a better option but remember weddings are exhuasting for the B&G and guests a like. The day sfter, I dont want to get out of bed any sooner than I have to, especially if Im nursing a hangover. 

    Post # 13
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

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    jerseygirl28 :  Personally I hate the next day brunch idea… like as the bride/groom have you not spent enough time and money planing an entire WEDDING. Why the need for another event the next day, so ridicolous in my eyes.

    Also won’t you be tired/hungover and generally wanting to wake up and spend your morning with your husband in bed sipping mimosas and just enjoying first day as a married couple.

    After party sounds better, maybe you can just do it at a local bar instead of the hotel where you don’t have to pay for the bartender, or rent a house and buy the booze? or just end it at the wedding its more than enough!

     

    Post # 14
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2017 - historical mansion

    As far as I have understood after parties, you don’t have to pay for people’s drinks at the after-party. We are just planning to invite people to a bar across the street from the hotel to gather after the wedding, but they will be on their own for drinks. The wedding itself will be open bar, of course. As for brunch, our hotel is allowing us to reserve a conference room kind of room (for free!) and then we can bring in our own food. I figure we will buy bagels, muffins, fruit, coffee, and juice for everyone, and it will be a lot less expensive than the hotel’s buffet breakfast, which is like $15 per person. Could you negotiate with the hotel to get a less expensive brunch option? i don’t think people need a full buffet. 

    Post # 15
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

    I voted for next day brunch based on the posted question of preference and not on the poll question of if you should have one. I don’t think it’s necessary to host anything beyond the wedding itself.

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