Post # 16
I voted brunch before reading the post since normally weddings with next day brunches are on Saturdays. I change my vote to neither, unless this wedding is a true destination one a lot of people will be going to work the next day, that means they prob don’t want an after party and prob can’t do a brunch so I’d be wasted money for you either way.
Post # 17
Since you’re having a Sunday wedding, I wouldn’t do either. Is there a bar nearby where you can go for an informal after party, if people want to keep drinking?
Post # 18
For a Sunday wedding, I wouldn’t do neither. Maybe an after party at most. We’re flying for a Sunday wedding. I booked an early afternoon flight out. I would be skipping brunch to make sure that I get to the airport on time. i think brunches are a good idea when it’s a Destination Wedding and you know a lot of your guests aren’t flying out early-ish the day after. After parties are a good idea when the wedding is local and on a Saturday and/or a lot of guests are staying nearby or on premises. The groom of a Sunday wedding I went to wanted to party after his wedding at 11 pm. We all left. We’re in our 30s and all had work the following day.
Post # 19
I also would skip both for a sunday wedding.
Post # 20
We did a casual afterparty in the hotel, which worked out well. One of our friends offered to let us hold it in their room. We brought the kinds of drinks our friends preferred and ordered pizza. All told, we probably spend $400 or so and had plenty left over. Is something more casual an option to stay on-budget?
Post # 21
- Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman
I voted for brunch, since I’m usually exhausted after weddings and never go to the after parties, but seeing that it’s a Sunday I wouldn’t do either.
Post # 22
btob17 : “a proper wedding that goes all day.” I’m sure you know by now that American weddings tend to start late afternoon or evening, and that most venues want you out by 11:00-ish. No one here would go to a wedding that started in the morning and lasted until midnight.
Post # 23
For a Sunday wedding I vote neither. Then again I’m old and after drinking until 10:30 I’ve done all the partying I want to do for the night. And honestly at that point I’m kinda done with your wedding – I don’t want another obligation the next morning.
Post # 24
fredthebasil : still feels like cheaping out, basically not hosting but still expecting people to celebrate you… this is an question asking for opinions on what people prefer in a wedding, that is mine
I prefer a wedding that doesnt stop at 11 then push awkwardness and hosting onto guests by having an ‘after party’
I have no opinion on the brunch as ive never been to one
Post # 25
- Wedding: April 2016 - Ed Oliver Golf Club, Wilmington, DE
I voted from my own personal guest perspective of which I would be more interested in attending. I love me some brunch, and would be excited to attend one the next day.
For our wedding, the reception ended at 11:30 and bars close in the state by 1am, so by the time the shuttles got everyone back, the bar wasn’t open for long, but trust me people were down there. My husband and I were upstairs, wrestling me out of my dress and opening cards (we were catching a 6:30am flight and were going to give them to my Dad).. we ventured back down around 1 and managed to be in the lobby until almost 3am chatting and celebrating. It was so fun! Like I said, we were out of there before some people even went to sleep, but I did hear that a bunch of family and friends had brunch the next morning together. We didn’t organize anything or pay for anything, but people still managed.
Long story short, hosting anything outside of the actual wedding is extremely gracious and your guests should be excited either way! Good luck!
Post # 26
My husband and I were exhausted by the end of our wedding. An after party would not have been fun for us. I love brunch though and if it had been in our budget would have loved to have hosted brunch the next morning. But neither is really necessary.
Post # 27
I vote neither. The reception is enough!
Post # 28
How early is early for the hotel on a sunday? is it midnight or 10am?
Post # 29
jerseygirl28 : I voted both, but you don’t necessarily need to host them. Our friends arranged our after-party on the fly (our friends rented a mansion instead of a hotel for our wedding since it was somehow cheaper) and then the next morning we met up for brunch with our friends who traveled internationally and despite our protests they ended up treating us! It was all very informal and fun after a very formal wedding.
ETA: don’t stay until the end of the after party – you have a new husband to go enjoy! My Maid/Matron of Honor pulled us aside, quickly showed Darling Husband how to undo the buttons on my dress, put the crochet hook in his pocket, and sent us back to our hotel in an Uber black hahaha. I hear the party raged on for hours even though we left around 1am.
Post # 30
I voted nothing.
Our wedding finishes at 10:30pm and starts at 2:30pm. After spending an entire day getting ready then at my actual wedding the LAST thing I’d want to do is party further.
Our ‘send off’ is at 10pm. We’re getting the eff outta there hahaha. I’ll wanna get it on with my new husband and get my 20lbs dress off haha