Post # 31
btob17 : I get what you’re saying, but this “after party” thing (which I’ve never seen in real life, BTW) is not “officially” part of the wedding, and no one is expected to attend. It’s like “if you want to keep the party going, this is where we’ll be.” No one cares if you show up or not.
It doesn’t really help to say what you prefer when it’s literally impossible. If the venue closes and kicks you out at 11:00, you don’t really have a choice as to when the night ends at that venue. You can prefer that the reception go on until 2:00 am, but it’s not even an option.
Post # 32
I voted nothing because honestly, as a guest, I would not go to the after party or the brunch unless you were my BFF, and even then I wouldn’t be thrilled. I really think the wedding is enough.
Post # 33
I’d do next day brunch. But will people even be around on Monday if the wedding is Sunday?
We do a next day get together with our close family and friends. It’s a cultural thing. But our wedding will go until 2 and probably won’t get to sleep till 4-5.
Post # 34
We’re having a Sunday afternoon wedding and then the bridal party, and whoever else wants to, are going out downtown to a few local pubs. I just went to another Sunday wedding and the couple did both and both were well attended. Of course the bride’s whole side had just traveled from Armenia so they wanted to do more than just the wedding for them.
Post # 35
I’m another one who voted brunch but want to change it to nothing! I voted brunch first because I am all about brunch, but… won’t people be going to work? You also ask if it’s necessary, and it totally isn’t. You’ve invited people to a wedding and that’s all you need to provide. If this is stressing you out or costing too much just leave it.
Post # 36
Went to one wedding that ended at 7pm then there was a brunch the next day. I loved the brunch but also thought there was a massive come down from the wedding which we enjoyed in the afternoon but then it was far too early for bed! 10.30 finish might be alright! So surprised by the hotel bar closing early. Are they trying to dupe you?? Maybe have a friend call and ask about their facilities and try and scope out their money making schemes!
Ive worked in a hotel and my Fiance worked in a hotel bar – for both it stayed open as long as people were there to drink. At my hotel we had a night time receptionist who would also get people drinks or snacks at any hour!
Post # 37
We did both sort of. Our reception ended at 6pm and we invited close family and friends back to the house we rented. We had pizza and squealed when my photographer would text pictures to me. I was still on a high, so I wasn’t too tired, but if we had ended later I think I would have hated people coming back to the house.
We had always planned a brunch the next day and it was awesome. We didn’t host- everyone paid for themselves. Then my aunts and BFF came back to the house again so they could watch us open presents. It was actually pretty helpful because they dealt with the trash and writing down who gave what.
Post # 38
I would most definitely do an after party, but I’m definitely a night owl and certainly NOT a morning person lol