Post # 1
So I am planning on having a small (30 guests) wedding at the Albemarle Estates in 2019 and only having close family and friends invited to that. It’ll be the wedding and basically cocktail hour and dinner. Not your typical reception. We’re choosing this option because it’s a lot more affordable, we’ll have beautiful wedding photos and our guests 2 night stay is included with the price. We want to throw a party/reception the following weekend (probably in someone’s backyard). Super causal and laid back, BBQ, beer, corn hole, do our first dance and a few wedding games. How would I invite these guests? Should I mail them an invitation? Just pass the word along online or through text? I feel like that is not as personal. I don’t want people to get offended that they aren’t invited to our actual wedding, but we still want to celebrate with our family and friends.
Our original guest list was 116. So since we are only having 30 guests at our wedding, we would invite everyone who did and did not get invited
Post # 2
I find this weird. You’re going to ask your guests to give up not one, but TWO of their weekends for your wedding festivities? That’s a bit much IMO, I wouldn’t be going to the second weekend party as a result.
Post # 3
lostinparadise19 : Whoever goes to the actual wedding doesn’t HAVE to go. It’s just going to be a fun party for everyone who wasn’t invited to the wedding to celebrate with us. Most of the people going to my wedding wouldn’t be upset about going to an actual party
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Post # 4
nboll002 : In that case, I’d probably go with something a little more informal to reflect the tone of the event, maybe a facebook invite? Do you have most of them on FB? Do you have a lot of older folks that would be ‘offended’ if they didnt get a physical invite, but maybe a phone call or something? The only thing you risk with more informal is that someone doesn’t get the word of the event and then someone says ‘Oh hey, are you going to nboll’s party tomorrow?!’ and they’re like ‘uhhh…. i didnt get an invitation’.
The other thing, do you WANT to spend extra money on invites? If that’s not an issue, you could put a cute, slightly different card in with the wedding invitation that has the date for the more informal party for your invited guests, or just send another invitation, maybe a week later. So if your suite was like gold and pink, do an insert card that’s white with a darker pink or maybe silver, something similar but that signals its a different event?
Post # 5
lostinparadise19 : That’s a really cute idea!
Post # 6
If you’re doing your first dance the following weekend, are you planning on re-wearing your dress? If so, that’s a bit odd- you’re wearing your wedding dress but there’s no wedding…
Post # 7
I would say FB is fine.
For another digital alternative, I recently used minted.com’s digital invites for my rehearsal dinner and thought they were nice (it’s free through the end of the year). It was sooo much easier getting RSVP’s back then with paper invitations! Digital is the way to go (Even older relatives responded without problems).
Post # 8
I’m doing something similar but I plan on wearing my wedding dress again if we do have a party after the actual wedding (that thing cost a lot of money and needs exposure lol). However, if it’s informal I say FB or simple card invites would be fine!
Post # 9
- Wedding: August 2018 - Banquet Hall/Conference Center
Email invites! Paperless Post is pretty cheap 🙂