(Closed) After stressing about how to save up for the wedding we want…happy news!

posted 4 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
710 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I wish I did that!!


Post # 5
567 posts
Busy bee

@musician32992:  At the end of the day, a wedding is about 2 people.  Back in the older days hardly anyone would go to the church with them for the ceremony but then they’d go back and maybe have a gathering.  This way, you get to have a wedding of a lifetime and a honeymoon of a lifetime in your favourite city, and then have a bash later on for your friends and family.  Weddings do get out of hand and expectations are so firm and silly from family/friends and guests!  Enjoy planning your wedding and trip! 😀


Post # 7
846 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@musician32992:  You go lady! And enjoy every second, I am really quite envious!

Post # 8
567 posts
Busy bee


Exactly.  I mean, I know thatonce engaged and me and SO talk budget, we will be going for a budget option and none of our parents are in a position to pay, and SO and I are in the view of no wedding is worth getting into debt for. If anyone says “Oh, but you have to have this, and that, and I want a 9-course meal” I would tell them to jog on!  he he.


Post # 12
4466 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I’m so glad that you made this decision!

Post # 13
2534 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014


It sounds AMAZING!!

I am SO JEALOUS of you, haha!
Couldn’t convince FI to elope… oh well! 😛

Post # 14
289 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I’m honestly surprised to see this post. Just a month ago, you wrote: “[He] recently decided that he wants to wait 7 more years… to propose. Not to get married…to get engaged. He also thought that if I got desperate, I would buy my own engagement ring.”

This man is not ready to get married. He’s a boy, really at the young age of 21. He’s not ready for a lifelong commitment and told you as much by asking for another 7 years. And instead, what did you do? Come up with wedding colors, scoping out venues, debating an elopment versus a big wedding, etc. You’re obviously not listening to him. At no point in time did he say “I want to wait seven years because a wedding is expensive”. There could be other reasons pushing him to wait, not limited to just finances.

I’m really not casting judgement,  as ten years ago, when I was your age, I was of the same mindset: “Let me remove all possible obstacles standing in the way of me being married”. But I just wanted to give you my two cents and tell you that this approach is going to come back to haunt you and you *will* pay dearly for it. And I’ll tell something that took me until my 30s to learn: the right guy will jump through hoops of fire to express his love for you. That’s not your guy or maybe your guy just isn’t there yet. In either case, I would strongly encourage you to not force something on him that he’s not ready for.

Post # 16
613 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@musician32992:  Well said! My SO (who tomorrow will be FI if I’ve guessed correctly!) was all hesitant until he admitted money was holding him back from proposing. He was too proud before to admit that. Ugh, I hate haters. “Not passing judgement” indeed!

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