(Closed) After the ceremony it's the after party and after the party it's the hotel lobby

posted 5 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Is an informal after party a good idea?

    YES! I would go to this

    Yes for some guests but I would not go.

    No, your guests will be too tired.

    Other: explain in comments

  • Post # 2
    1510 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2018

    If I were staying at the hotel, then definitely! Not sure it’s something I would go out of my way to attend if I were going home however.

    Post # 3
    249 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2017

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    somathemagical :  I would say it depends on the atmosphere and style of the wedding. While I would probably enjoy it, my thoughts would also be that I don’t want to keep the bride and groom from enjoying their wedding night. When staying at a hotel, we are also more likely to treat a party as date night and therefore excuse ourselves earlier (around midnight, actually).

    Post # 4
    6239 posts
    Bee Keeper

    It would depend on who I was to you, but in all likelihood I would rather just go to sleep.  If you were my best friend, I’d probably stick around another hour.  If you were distant family or an acquiantance, I’d skip it.  I also wouldn’t commit to it ahead of time, just in case I was more tired than expected.  Also, based on this same concept, I doubt I’d stay that late at a wedding anyway.  I wouldn’t say I’m first to leave, but I’m never last, either, and I wouldn’t wait around the hotel for a second party to begin. (honestly after parties make very little sense to me anyway – I think I’m just a party pooper).

    Post # 5
    1720 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    it just all depends…. after my wedding people were up partying till 4 am. I have been at other weddings where people were up till 7 am. On the other hand I have been to weddings where everyone was in their own room (and potentially asleep) at 9 pm…..

    I would say that I wouldn’t go crazy but worse case you end up with a fridge full of beers and a full bar to come home to after the honeymoon

    Post # 9
    1720 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I think that a big part of it will be if the bride and groom are out – all of the parties where things have gone late the bride and groom where right there partying. Generally once they go to bed I will try to clear out too but if they are there I will stay up “just for one more”

    what do you guys think? do you want to stay up or are you planning to have one drink and skip out?

    Post # 10
    2050 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2016

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    somathemagical :  I don’t really understand after parties to be honest, maybe because I’m UK and our receptions are long enough. Personally I wouldn’t plan anything in particular because you might be expected to be present. If the hotel has a bar and people are interested in continuing then they will find their own way there. You could even let people know by word of mouth that the hotel bar is open after the reception. You can then either join if you’re not too tired or go to bed if you’re tired or ready to get on with your wedding night.

    Our reception finished at 1am, the hotel bar was open until about 3am. Some guests had already left the reception earlier in the evening, some went to bed and some stayed in the bar. We were able to say goodnight and finally go to bed and nobody was obligated to stay because it was an organised event.

    Post # 11
    940 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    Please don’t do this to your MOH/BM unless they’re late night people to begin with. If you want to have an after-party, deal with the logistics yourself, or ask your guests to clean up after themselves. But don’t force your MOH/BM to stay up after a long day until 3 or 4 am when you’re not even there just to throw out some bottles and pizza boxes. That’s just cruel.

    Post # 13
    3949 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I think it sounds fun. My two bridesmen had a suite at the hotel, so they had the DJ announce at the wedding that anyone who wanted to hang out could meet up at Rm XX at X hotel (our wedding wasn’t at a hotel). DH and I left the afterparty around midnight or 1 a.m. (wedding went until 10:30-11), but my friends said that a group of about 20 people partied until around 3 a.m. 

    We provided the alcohol (left-overs from our bar, since we bought our own), and I think they ordered pizzas eventually.


    Post # 14
    7268 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    Totally depends on your guests! I would not be into this because I like to go to bed early lol, but I have been to many weddings that did something like this to huge success. If you have partiers in your crowd or night owls, I think it could be a hit! 

    Post # 15
    6354 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2016

    In our circle of friends, basically every wedding has an after party. It’s never formal at all. Basically the bride and groom tell people about it during the reception: “Hey friend, after the reception ends we’re all heading to Bar X. Feel free to come!” We’ve also been to hotel parties after a wedding but only if we were also staying at that hotel, which in our circle the majority of people get rooms in the hotel block unless it’s too expensive. 

    For our wedding, which was very small (28 people total), it took place in a hotel where everyone happened to staying anyway. So towards the end of the reception I just got on the microphone and let everyone know that the party would be continuing at the pool for whoever wanted to join. About half of our guests showed up and we had a blast 🙂

    It doesn’t need to be anything fancy. Have fun!

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