(Closed) after the courthouse wedding

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1161 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@emchi:  Since they are requesting to come I don’t think you’re obligated to host them in the traditional sense. But I think it’s always nice to have a little something to snack on and celebrate over. Even if it’s just drinks and snaks like you said, or cupcakes and punch for a 15 minutes after the ceremony. Something simple would be fine.

Post # 4
1670 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014


You are not required to do anything for them. You made a point of having a courthouse wedding to avoid this exact thing. 

Why not some champagne (or any celebratory drink!) and some apps or snacks. Maybe you could prep a salad the day before with a couple finger foods? Nothing too difficult for yourself.

Post # 5
7560 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

This is a tough situation. Although it’s not ideal I think having some snacks at your house is best. Could you grab something easy like chips, veggies and dip? That plus drinks and cake would probably please everyone. 

Post # 6
317 posts
Helper bee

@emchi:  do you want these people to attend your wedding? I think it’s a little bit off that they just told you they were coming and it really doesn’t seem fair to you to have to worry about guests when you already made a decision that was intended to avoid such worries. But anyway, I like the idea of doing one bottle of champagne and maybe a cake. I think that’s appropriate for your situation. I’m actually doing the same thing for my elopement ceremony 🙂

Post # 7
1 posts
  • Wedding: August 2013

@emchi:  Agree. Just do something simple. Like get a cake some Champagne and/or sparkling wine. & call it a day. After all, this journey is for you and your husband to be. 🙂 Congrats Girly!


Post # 8
1084 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I would just let everyone know that after the courthouse you will be going out to celebrate with your husband.. just the both of you. 

I wouldn’t want to be fussing over other people on my wedding day.

Post # 9
2297 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

i’d just say ‘it’s great that you want to witness the ceremony, but i want to let you know that Fi and I will be heading off after the ceremony for a special dinner just the two of us. i hope that’s okay!’

i’m sure they’ll be fine with it – they’re getting a reception two weeks later 🙂

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