Post # 1
Hi there, need a honest but please be nice..opinion. My fiance and I are planning a courthouse wedding. I have no family where we live and my fiance only has his divorced parents here. Due to logistics it just seemed easier to get married here. My family back in my home state are hosting a reception 2 weeks after when we visit. We are paying for the reception along with my family and dont have extra $ to spend. My fiance’s parents and partners have said theyd like to be present for the courthouse ceremony.They are also flying to the reception. My sister in law and co-worker have also said they are coming to the courthouse. Im feeling as though we have to host them somewhere afterwards and pay. We dont have the $ to pay for potentially 8 peoples dinner/drinks somewhere. I dont want to go out either and assume people will pay their own tab. What would you suggest in this situation? I have not actually invited anyone except my sister in law( because she travels to our area for work) everyone just stated there coming. I wouldnt be so stressed about it if we werent paying for the reception 2 weeks latter. I could make/prep food and coctails at our place afterwards for them. I hate to spend my wedding day cleaning and cooking but I feel like I have to now to host them all. So am I obligated to do this?
Post # 3
@emchi: Since they are requesting to come I don’t think you’re obligated to host them in the traditional sense. But I think it’s always nice to have a little something to snack on and celebrate over. Even if it’s just drinks and snaks like you said, or cupcakes and punch for a 15 minutes after the ceremony. Something simple would be fine.
Post # 4
You are not required to do anything for them. You made a point of having a courthouse wedding to avoid this exact thing.
Why not some champagne (or any celebratory drink!) and some apps or snacks. Maybe you could prep a salad the day before with a couple finger foods? Nothing too difficult for yourself.
Post # 5
This is a tough situation. Although it’s not ideal I think having some snacks at your house is best. Could you grab something easy like chips, veggies and dip? That plus drinks and cake would probably please everyone.
Post # 6
@emchi: do you want these people to attend your wedding? I think it’s a little bit off that they just told you they were coming and it really doesn’t seem fair to you to have to worry about guests when you already made a decision that was intended to avoid such worries. But anyway, I like the idea of doing one bottle of champagne and maybe a cake. I think that’s appropriate for your situation. I’m actually doing the same thing for my elopement ceremony 🙂
Post # 7
@emchi: Agree. Just do something simple. Like get a cake some Champagne and/or sparkling wine. & call it a day. After all, this journey is for you and your husband to be. 🙂 Congrats Girly!
Post # 8
I would just let everyone know that after the courthouse you will be going out to celebrate with your husband.. just the both of you.
I wouldn’t want to be fussing over other people on my wedding day.
Post # 9
i’d just say ‘it’s great that you want to witness the ceremony, but i want to let you know that Fi and I will be heading off after the ceremony for a special dinner just the two of us. i hope that’s okay!’
i’m sure they’ll be fine with it – they’re getting a reception two weeks later 🙂