Post # 1
There are a few members of my husband’s family that were invited out of courtesy and I KNEW going into this that they will never have anything good to say. I knew that they would have plenty of “complaints” about my wedding, during and after.
I begged my FIL and other family to keep these things away from me during the wedding itself so that I would have a wonderful time, and they did so. But now in the two months since I’m starting to be “debriefed” and I’m being told the unbelievable CRAP that my husband’s family had to say or did during the wedding.
There were insults and religious intolerance thrown at my officiant (my FIL) which he absorbed, there were family members who left inappropriately early and didn’t even say goodbye, family members who threatened not to come at the last second because they were out of “stuff,” and one individual in particular (girlfriend to family) who CANNOT stop complaining to my FIL about the fact that she was “overdressed” to my wedding. ARE YOU KIDDING ME? The woman who didn’t wear makeup, jewelery, run a comb through her hair and who was wearing the most unbelievable dress there ever was? HA. She also had an issue with my thank you note, claiming it was “too formal” and that she was insulted that I signed it “sincere thanks.”
JEEZ TRASHY PEOPLE! Did anyone else have this happen after their wedding? There was more, but I’m trying to ignore it all.
Post # 3
Mine is starting to come before the wedding. Like how dare we have a sit down dinner and an open bar! This wedding is just too fancy. Seriously, its just average fanciness our total budget is only 5,000, for everything!
Seriously I guess all we can do is realize how much we loved our weddings, as in my case, will love my wedding, and ignore the haters.
Post # 4
It is unbelievable just how rude people can be!!! Whatever happened to “if you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all!” I’m sorry- you can’t please everyone, so you’ve got to please yourself!!! I would just ignore the remarks, and remember to enjoy your day and good memories regardless of other people’s inappropriate remarks or behavior, it only reflects on them, not you!! 🙂
Post # 5
If they don’t talk trash about how little you spent, they’ll talk trash about how much money you wasted. i’ve already got complaints about how i’m not having a religious ceremony and it hasn’t even happened yet. you just have to roll with it and remember that it was YOUR day, not theirs. as long as it was a wonderful day for you and your husband, screw the rest. people are a-holes- they’ll talk no matter what!
Post # 6
It’s why God invented vodka.
There’s no pleasing some people. (And good riddance to anyone who takes issue with a thank you note.)
I’m sure your wedding was gorgeous. Don’t let these tacky, tacky comments ruin wonderful memories.
Post # 7
@MissBirdy: seriously, it seems like it’s always one or the other.
Our biggest complaints ahead of time have been about the attire. I put ‘semi-formal’ and apparently some people think I should change it to ‘dressy casual’ which is not going to happen. Of course, I’m prepared for the people that are going to dress that way (they claim they don’t own suits), and that’s fine, but I’m not going to change it for everyone when I’d really like people to dress up for my wedding (seriously, is that asking too much?).
We were basically told that weddings are supposed to be backyard events in summer and that our evening, winter, city wedding was just too fancy (even though it isn’t…).
And then complaints about not having hard liquor. We’ll have wine, beer, champagne, and hard apple cider (sparkling and ginger).
Seriously, why do people think they get such a vote?!
Post # 8
The next time someone starts to tell you about something that went unnoticed, stop them and say that you are so happy to be married to your SO and that you don’t want to hear about any negative comments. If people say disrespectful things to you first hand, try to just shrug it off and realize that you can’t change people, but you can choose to limit your exposure to negativity.
Post # 9
Wow, please don’t tell me this is what I have to look forward to.
**looking for the vodka bottle**
Post # 10
This is ridiculous- like at least keep negative comments to yourself you know? If I am paying thousands of dollars for this wedding, people better be nothing but positive about it!
Post # 11
The negative comments just suck. The only one I knew about was that 1 family member complained my DJ played some inappropriate song. She didn’t even hear it. Another family member told her. When I went back and viewed my whole wedding tape, there was no such song. I think it was a songe that the one family member was used to hearing “changed lyrics”. You know the kind kids make up.
Yet still, I was upset. I wnated to make a bulletin to the family saying, “You got it wrong!”
Post # 12
Please, please, please don’t let them ruin your day!!! I wish I had a heads-up that my family would go f-nuts crazy but I didn’t and I let them ruin my day. Some people just can’t see passed their own noses and it’s not worth you worrying about!
Post # 13
What is it about weddings that makes people think that the bride and groom must be subjected to their guests’ each and every opinion and criticism? You would not go to someone’s house and spend the evening bashing the meal and beverage chosen by the hosts – so why on earth do people do such things with a wedding??? Ruuuuuuuuuuude.
Don’t let this irritate you – to be honest, it sounds like petty jealousy to me and if ALL people can think of to do with themselves is to find something wrong with a celebration of love, well, then, their existence must be rather sad.
I say to hell with ’em and enjoy being a newlywed
Post # 14
This is already happening! My fiance’s aunts have already started that, telling his mom that we must pay for their accommodation, etc. I’m not surprised if more is coming after our wedding next month. It will be the first wedding in the family to be held in a castle and the reception at a 5 stars hotel. Both my fiance and I pay the entire wedding out of our pocket.
Things like that are beyond our control but never let them ruin your day 🙂 It’s your wedding, not theirs!
Post # 15
Oh, it goes ON AND ON – the garbage that came out of that girlfriend’s mouth was inexcusable and unbelievable – that my father’s hands were too delicate and dainty for him to really be a straight man. – HE’S A HEART SURGEON YOU DUMB BITCH! And there was more, more….
The relative who, seconds before the ceremony was to begin, made fun of the robe the officiant was in, calling it Lord of the Rings. Um, WHAT?!
Post # 16
I cannot stand people who do this, guests are bad enough let alone family members. I dread this happening on our day, if I catch wind of it I will lose my temper, I know what I am like! There are some people coming who I am only inviting because I have to and for the sake of my fiance so there will definately be some butts on seats that dont deserve to be there and if they so much as utter a complaint and I hear it they will have wished they’d kept it shut!!
Its a shame when people just cannot be happy for you, its a sad sad place sometimes x