(Closed) After wedding (keeping maiden name), am I Mrs. Maiden name? HATE "Ms"

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
580 posts
Busy bee

I believe you would be Mrs.


Mrs. = a married woman (or woman who was married and her husband died)

Ms. = a divorced woman

Miss = a single woman who has never been married

Post # 3
28 posts

Since you are keeping your name you won’t be Mrs. I am keeping my name as well. I will forever be a Ms. The above post is incorrect. Ms. does not mean divorced – it means you are either married OR single. Mrs. is if you took your husband’s name. And Miss is for a single woman. You will become Ms. White in your example. 

Post # 5
3492 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

If you’re keeping your name after getting married, you’d be Ms. Maiden Name.

Post # 6
3290 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017


patchm Ms makes zero reference to ones marital status 

Post # 7
2404 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Call yourself whatever you’d like. I simply use my first & last name in correspondence. Titles seem antiquated to me.

Post # 9
2904 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

samael :  I hate Ms as well. To me is sounds like it’s missing a vowel. No issue with what it can mean, it just sounds super wrong to me.

i use Mrs but I also took my husband’s name. 

I used to work with a woman who didn’t use a title either. She didn’t like Miss or Ms and wasn’t married. 

Post # 10
3492 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

Technically (or maybe just historically) Mrs. indicates “the wife of” so calling yourself Mrs. Maiden Name would be indicating that you are the wife of Maiden Name. Which you’re not as you didn’t marry yourself. That’s why they say Mr. And Mrs. John Smith.

But at the end of the day, nobody actually cares what you call yourself. If you wanna be Mrs. Maiden, have at it.

Post # 11
9806 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Do whatever you want. Seriously, nobody cares. I don’t know a single person who even uses those titles anymore. 

Post # 12
1481 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

Mrs. is used by married women who takes her husband’s last name.

Miss is used by unmarried women.

Ms. can be used by anyone, married or unmarried, with their own name or their husbands. It is the female equivalent of Mr. which also does not denote marital status.

Since the cases for Mrs. and Miss do not apply to you, by default you are left with Ms. 

But frankly, you can call yourself whatever you want, so if you want to use Mrs. with your maiden name, no one is going to stop you.

Post # 13
6847 posts
Busy Beekeeper

 patchm :  1) If you read the post you linked you’ll see that “Ms.” is almost universally used as the female version of “Mr.” today and does not designate a divorcée. 2) Mumsnet isn’t exactly Emily Post. A quick google search would provide you with more reliable answers. 

OP: Even if it’s not entirely kosher will anyone really care if you opt for “Mrs.”? Though be prepared for assumptions to be made–people may reasonably refer to your husband as Mr. YourLastName if they don’t know.

Post # 15
1637 posts
Bumble bee

I don’t know anyone under 50 who uses the titles at all anymore. 

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