Post # 1
Not sure why I’m sharing this, I guess I don’t have anyone else to talk to it about.
So the whole thing leading up to my big day was a bit of a let down.
Had a huge dramas with the family in law about the guest list, Maid of honor was seriously lacking (My Hens day/night was a complete disaster) and now to top it all off, I’m having massive post wedding dress & hair regret.
I feel so down and out about the big day I just wish I could re-wind it and do the whole thing over or rather that it never happened.
And I can’t talk to hubby about it because he thinks I looked amazing & just doesn’t seem to understand.
Has anyone else gone through this? And how did you move on from it?
Any help would be appreciated.
Post # 3
I hated my hair too. My Maid/Matron of Honor set up the hairdresser to come to the hotel. After she did my hair I cried. I hated it. She tried to fix it, but it still sucked. I cried and ran across the street to this nail salon where I knew a lady did hair. I was late to my wedding because this lady “fixed” my hair in 20 minutes. I haven’t gotten my pictures but I know my hair doesn’t look the way I wanted it to.
Before the wedding I had so much family drama I didn’t even want to have the wedding anymore. God, that year was so stressful.
BUT my wedding was great. We danced and had a great time and only like 30 people showed up!!! (DW) I loved it!!!
Look at the bright side, hon. Problems arise, but it’s all about your attitude! Be happy for the good things that happened.
Post # 4
This is so sad. I am sorry you didn’t have a great wedding day. I am not married yet, but intend to do my own hair- as I am certain someone else would wreck it. I am so fussy about my hair, so I can almost feel how painful this is. I hope you are happy to have married the love of your life, focus on that. If you can, get a private photographer to retake pictures of just you and your husband… wear your dress again if you can, retake them. Maybe that will help make you feel better. Sorry.
Post # 5
My whole wedding (ceremony, cocktails and reception) was planned to be at this beautiful beach.. then out of season, a storm came. Guests’ flights got delayed and coordinator (and hubby) was telling me to move the whole event indoors. But i’ve been praying (A LOT) since i heard the weather forecast. I insisted on a beach ceremony (I was spared and the rain stopped for the ceremony to push through at the beach) and had the cocktails and reception indoors. For me, the whole plan was ruined! Cocktails and reception was cramped inside a ballroom much smaller than our beach area. Fireworks by the beach became fireworks from afar. It just wasnt the way I planned (and hoped) my wedding to be.
But, at the end of the day, I was married to the man I love. We were surrounded by family and friends and they had fun at the wedding. None of our guests knew how the beach set-up would’ve been so much nicer than what we had at the ballroom. They knew we moved the venue because of the rain but to them, it was a beautiful wedding nonetheless.
So I learned to focus on what really matters: we celebrated Love and it was a wonderful day for us and everyone there with us. In time, the small stuff wont matter and you’ll look back on your wedding day with a smile.
Post # 6
My wedding was a disaster. So much went wrong from the Maid/Matron of Honor fighting with me over her boyfriend the night before, the hotel relocating our room the day of the wedding while i was in the salon, an extremely sick groom, wrong music, missing menu items, DH’s mom interfering in the alcohol being served for an hour, mother ripping bride’s dress, hotel loosing father’s tux, I could keep going.
And afterward I was bummed, severly bummed. I felt like I wated so much money on this especially since I wanted to just go to the courthouse. Complaining to Darling Husband was pointless he was so out of it from being sick he barely remembers getting through the night. It is what it is and dwelling on it won’t make it go away. You just take deep breaths and remember that crappy weddings lead to the happiest lifetimes. And one day it will be funny, not yet but years from now yes.
Post # 7
I’m sorry you ladies did not have the weddings you imagined. We all put so much time and energy into planning that it can be hard not feel let down when things did not turn out the way we wanted. Overall, its better to have a happy marriage than a “perfect” wedding day.
Hopefully, talking about it here will help you get it out of your system and see that other people had similiar situations and have come to terms with things.
Finally, sometimes we are more critical of ourselves and its possible that no one even noticed that things weren’t “right”.
Post # 8
@owlamor: You’re not alone..I hated my dress! My hair was nice except the hairdresser placed my flower on the wrong side of my head so there are very little pictures where you can actually see it. I had florist issues as well. I could go on and on. The best thing though is that I am the wife of a wonderful man and feel very lucky to have had an otherwise beautiful wedding on the beach surrounded by those we love the most. I force myself to overlook the wrongs and focus on the things that went right. Big Hugs to you, I hope you can do the same:)
Post # 9
I am sorry you are sad about how your wedding turned out. Here is a quote I would say to myself throughout the engagement and wedding planning anytime things got really stressful….I have found that it helped more than anything:
Post # 10
@owlamor: did the wedding day turn out ok at least? You only mentioned the days leading up to it.
We received great reviews about the day itself but what bothers me was the week prior and especially the morning of. only a few members of my wedding party pulled through for me.
1. Most likely unusable morning prep photos.
2. Made a deal with God to help us get to the church on time and I dont mind not looking my best. After seeing some guests’ photos, I think God listened.
3. I was so flustered I didn’t get to fix my makeup the way I wanted to. While everyone looked after themselves I felt no one looked me over with a critical eye. Some needed to be looked after which left me no time to myself in the morning.
5. I was so pissed off and unhappy that I didn’t even feel anything emotional when my dad told me he loved me when we waited our turn to walk.
BUT once I heard my marching music I forgot everything 🙂 The negative stuff are hard to ignore, after all we are only humans. And event planning isn’t exactly what every bride does for a living. It didn’t help that most of the brides in the honeymoon I talked to spent their mornings drinking champaign or tea in their dress with their family hours before the ceremony. This was what I wanted to do but missed out. And I don’t think I looked my best. I’m sure in time I’ll get over it but I’m still annoyed with some of the people i spent that morning with.
Post # 11
@owlamor: I had serious groom regret after my first marriage so I split after three months 🙂 Sorry, I just had to. I think it all ties in with post-wedding blues, and it will probably blow over. Good luck!
Post # 13
I’m sorry you are dealing with such disappointment. 🙁 I experienced some as well — chiefly that my timeline derailed, and I never had the opportunity to greet or otherwise iteract with most of my guests.
Have you seen this thread? Perhaps reading through it may help. It did for me, and I also posted my story there. HUGS!
**Please Share your **biggest Regrets** incl photos
Post # 14
@owlamor: We got married in my husbands home country where I dont speak the language and we only had 10 days to organize our wedding, because we were stuck on another continent for the past 8 months…
So one of his female friends took me to the best hair dresser in the city and I HATED my hair and she just didnt get the style I wanted, even though I showed her 4-5 pics of the same hair on different women…
Anyway, I decided to do my hair myself on my wedding day and once I received pics and our highlight video, I realized, that I had some hairs hanging out my little “up do” (not really, just wanted my hair up in a soft little bun)… To me it looks so STUPID and I dont get how nobody told me about my hair looking weird from the back lol!
Here is what Im talking about…. You will see it after about 30-60 seconds….
So stupid :((( And my shiny face looks terrible too. But my hubby is awesome, so I guess there is much worse things in life.
Post # 15
My entire wedding experience was sad and disappointing, from my proposal up to the wedding night. I am haunted by the awful beginning to our marriage. This is part of the reason we are renewing our vows for our fifth anniversary. Maybe you can have a similar celebration in a few years?
Post # 16
@owlamor: I can definitely understand how you feel. I was so disappointed in myself leading up to the wedding. I started becoming so stressed that I flew off the wagon with my diet and gained weight when I had just reached my goal weight. Which ended in my dress being a little too tight on the wedding day and I hated the way I looked. My hair and makeup were horrible. I didn’t get the beautiful sunny day that I wanted, it was overcast. My family didn’t help me all day. Photos were horrible. Etc.