Post # 1
I have been reading previous posts on this site and am getting a better idea of what’s to come.
So my fiance and I are having our wedding at a formal hotel in Boise,ID. We are scheduled to have our ceremony at 3pm followed by a short cocktail hour, minus cocktails, as our chairs are shifted around in the ballroom, and the reception is set to begin around 3:30 give or take 15 minutes. I am not currently living where our wedding will take place, as my fiance and I are finishing college and he will be in medical school in a few months.
So I have had my Mom meet with the coordinator at the Hotel and she has sent me LOTS of pictures and paperwork, etc. from our site. We decided to go with an afternoon ceremony because having a ‘formal’ sitdown meal was important to me, but it was not in our budget for dinner. So the coordinator suggested having the ceremony at 3 and reception at 3:30. Will our guests eat a sit-down meal at that time? Will they dance? They talked about ending the reception around 7, is that enough time? Finally, and possibly most important, what will we do after 7? I’d appreciate EVERYONE’S ideas as I am having anxiety over my wedding and it is a year and six months away (June 4, 2011) THANKS ALL!!!
Post # 3
People will eat a sit down dinner if they’re hungry! We often eat Christmas dinner at that time of day. I wouldn’t have a cocktail hour, unless that’s what would be at 3.30 with the meal to be at 4pm, for example. I’m not sure about the dancing, it probably depends on your crowd and the amount of alcohol they need 🙂 What will you do after 7? That’s easy – run off to a nice hotel with your new husband and enjoy a spa and some room service together 🙂
Post # 4
I don’t think 4 hours is enough for everything. Does it cost more to stay later?
If your ceremony is at 3 and you have to be done by 7, this is the timeline I would do…
3:00 ceremony begins
3:15 ceremony over (not sure how long you’re planning on)
3:30 mingling, guests make their way to cocktail area
4:15/4:30 guests ushered into dinner area, grand entrance
4:30/4:45 dinner served, toasts, etc
5:45 dancing starts
6:30 cake served, continue dancing until 7
Post # 5
Actually, we have the ballroom reserved until midnight, when you book at this hotel you reserve the space from 12pm-12am, so ideally we could make it longer, possibly give our guests more alcohol and enjoy the afternoon/evening a little longer! I SO appreciate all comments/ideas!!! THANK YOU!!
Post # 6
Depends on the style of reception you want…if you’re doing the “usual/traditional” with all the lovely Father/Daughter, Mother/Son dances, honoring the longest married couple dance, dancing the night away to fun & funky songs with your nearest & dearest, 3 1/2 hours may not be enough time. If you’re foregoing some of the above, may 3 1/2 is plenty.
We’re not the dancing fiends that others are & Fiance isn’t really a drinker, so instead of imbibing & shaking it on the dance floor; we’re doing some fun games & sending people into a theme park for the “reception” (after they’ve eaten their brunch sit down meal, of course). We figured, instead of going from table to table to spend a few minutes with every guest, we’d spend a few minutes with guests as they stood in line for their favorite ride. So for us, 3 1/2 hours is too long; our reception will fall around 2 hours… just enought time for toasts, food, & a game or two.
So decide what you want to do with your guests & that will determine how long you want your reception to be.
Post # 7
If you are concerned with people eating a meal at a weird time, but you have the space starting at 12, why not have the ceremony start at 12:30 or 1? That way it’s more of a late lunch than a mid-afternoon meal. What is the pricing difference between lunch and dinner? And is the hotel catering? Seems odd that they would charge more for the same meal later in the day if you get the room for 12 hours – which is a LONG time for a space rental.