(Closed) Afternoon Wedding?

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
3088 posts
Sugar bee

Much better option!  About the food: is there really a difference between food options for lunch or dinner? Your guests probably wouldn’t consider it so; if the food served is delicious, I bet they will enjoy it.

Dancing: If your guests like to dance, they will even if its daytime.

Post # 3
102 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I’ve known a few people who did afternoon weddings, but instead of a sit down formal dinner they did an afternoon tea theme – nice sandwiches, finger foods, cakes, scones etc (think high tea at the Ritz). It is different to an evening do because it’s never going to be a full on party with lots of drinking and dancing, but nevertheless can be lovely. 

Post # 4
816 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I love the Saturday idea! The views alone make it worth it to me. I don’t think the menu will necessarily be too heavy, especially if you’re not having much dancing. People can enjoy a luxuriously long lunch while watching the river. I think it sounds fantastic! After the wedding, most people would probably just go home, the same as if the wedding were at night. If you want, you can arrange an after party along the lines of “Hey, we’re hanging out here starting at X time, feel free to join us.”

Post # 5
1709 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2016 - Garden

Agreed. Mine will be from 12pm-5pm too. In not having an after party. No need to wait to the end of the night to leave the reception like midnight…. I’m not an evening type of a gal. Noon will do great for the both of us. That was what we agreed on. 🙂

My Fiance wants to go to our honeymoon after that, so that could be an option, just spend the rest of the day with your hubby. No problem with that. 😀 if you prefer having the honeymoon the day after then go for it have dinner with your hubby that night and pack for your honeymoon the next day. That’s what ill probably be doing.

Post # 7
250 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

This is exactly what we did…12:30 ceremony, 1-2 cocktails, 2-6 reception on a Saturday. It worked out great. Alot of people stayed over at the hotel and we continued with an after party.   We still had the dance floor packed thanks to an awesome DJ. 

It saved us a ton of money.  I don’t regret picking a Saturday afternoon at all, though having the glam squad at my door at 7am kinda sucked, but it was all worth it. 

Post # 8
2076 posts
Buzzing bee

I think your pros overwhelmingly outway your cons.  It seems that you and your Fiance aren’t really looking for a crazy party at your wedding so an afternoon time is perfect.  Once the wedding is over people can head home or go to a local bar/restaurant to continue the party.  It is really up to them. And I don’t think a dinner type meal for lunch would be too heavy.  If you go out to restaurant for lunch the entrees offered are pretty much on par for what they offer at dinner.  People will eat as much as they want and then stop.

I really think this would be much better then a Thursday evening wedding.  And having an afternoon wedding means that all your guests evenings will be open for them to enjoy however they want, which is nice.

Post # 9
1444 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We did our reception from 3-8 because we wanted guests coming from my hometown (2 hours away) to be able to drive home if they wished, and it was great! Still plenty of partying lol, and though “late night” snacks came out around 7, they were barely touched because almost everyone was still full from early dinner/dessert.

We also had an after party, we bought a bunch of tickets to a concert for a Phish cover band at a bar, and being able to get some us time, nap, and then celebrate some more was great.

Post # 10
1746 posts
Bumble bee

If you have a web page with a FAQ I would probably list something about full sit down meal provided.  Since it will be a ‘heavy’ meal I’d hate to assume just light snacks, and eat something before coming then be surprised with a big meal.  But I think this is a great solution, and especially since you’re not big drinkers/dancers this may fit your personality better.  Another plus for me would be that you’ll still have the evening and the energy to plan something private with new hubby (couples massage?; late romantic dinner at a nice restaurant?) .  

Post # 11
47254 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

sweetandsour1234:  I had an afternoon wedding for my first marriage. My parents were both alcoholics and there was no way I wanted to see what would happen at an evening wedding with an open bar. My FIL’s were staunchly anti- drinking people too. We had punch, tea sandwiches, other appies etc.

After the reception, (we left for our honeymoon) people went out to dinner with groups of their choice- the in-laws, our friends, my Mom and Dad’s friends and families etc. Later that evening my Mom and Dad had all th drinkers over to their home for a party. All th wedding guests were invited, but realistically, we knew the non-drinking side wouldn’t attend.

Post # 12
2183 posts
Buzzing bee

sweetandsour1234:  That all sounds awesome. Personally, I love afternoon weddings and receptions. It allows your guests who want to party to continue elsewhere and the ones who would rather just drive home to also make that choice. I had an AM wedding that ended at 3. Half of our guests went home/ to the hotel and the other half moved to a nearby bar to continue the party.

One thing you didn’t mention was photography. If you’ll be doing it before the ceremony at noon, you’ll want to think of what the timeline for getting ready looks like. I’d guess you’d be getting ready with around 8 or sooner. If mornings are hard for you or your groom, that’s something to consider.

Post # 13
9860 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I love afternoon weddings! I think it’s a much better option than Thursday!

Post # 14
2076 posts
Buzzing bee

fascinated:  For a wedding that takes place at noon (a meal time), it is common place that a full meal be served.  Now if the ceremony started at 2pm then light apps would be acceptable and maybe even expected.  But a wedding that starts at noon?  Most people will assume a full meal is being served, because it would be rude not to.

Post # 15
51 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

unicornphish:  Fiance and I are pretty much planning to do exactly this. What kind of “late night” snack did you serve? 

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