- 6 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
Hey there 🙂
My fiance and I are planning our wedding at a very nice, Victorian-themed hotel. The ceremony will take place around 1:30pm in the afternoon on the boardwalk/garden-view gazebo area. Afterwards, our reception will take place in a conservatory room (tons of beautiful windows). The reception area is only 1,400 sq ft.
I’m not too sure what to do at this point. Here is my dilemma–
So the plan is the ceremony, then the reception, we will be serving a plated lunch, and then assumably cake/punch.
My mom thinks due to the time of day it is pointless to serve food. He & I would prefer to serve the lunch, as the guests are making a 1-hr drive to this venue.
Plus, he and I both do not drink, very rarely socially. He does not want alcohol. I am fine with that. Probably about 60% of the guests are from my family. My family is not so religious that they cannot joke around and have fun, however, all of the weddings I have ever been to for my family do not have alcohol or dancing. So, it is kind of assumed you don’t do that at your wedding in my family. Plus, fiance doesn’t want the alcohol– he just doesn’t want it and I am fine with that.
Now, we are having a string quartet. I assumed we were just doing that for the ceremony and then having a DJ for the reception. Now, the fiance is talking about the symphony-style music for the reception also. I am fine with it, it is beautiful, a-okay. But, there are two problems. I am assuming we should have our ‘first dance’ during the reception. My problem is, I don’t know if there is enough room to even do this in this reception area. We checked it out with the tables in there and I don’t see where we can even dance at. Should we even worry about it?
It is okay and appropriate to just do the early afternoon ceremony, followed by lunch, followed by cake, and then that’s it? We are not stiffs by any means, but I really am not sure where to go with this and if we should even worry about trying to do the dancing or not. I just don’t want the perception that we don’t want to have fun at our wedding, because we do, but we also don’t want the perception of having the full on “this is a party” type of reception, either. Especially since the majority of guests are going to be older members of our families. And we aren’t going traditional Vietnamese with this either, so we’re really kind of stuck as to the style of wedding this is. I know people are expecting a traditional Vietnamese wedding or even the ‘party’ type of wedding. But, as he and I are starting to work on these details we are seeing more and more we really don’t want anything evasive or over-the-top.
I just want to make sure that the plan so far is okay and we aren’t being ‘too stiff’ about this?
What do you all think?