Post # 1
Okay, not sure what to do – having mixed feelings, etc.
We are thinking of having an afternoon wedding with just our immediate families – ceremony, a nice luncheon, etc., then we thought about having an after-party for our guests as well as any others that we didn’t invite to the earlier ceremony/luncheon. Is this considered wrong?
It would be at a different location. We would have a dj, open bar, and some food (not a full dinner).
I wouldn’t care if I was invited to an after-party, but then again, I don’t take these things too seriously and I know how expensive weddings are and how you are trying to make everyone happy, etc.
Thanks for any input.
Post # 3
We were actually considering this since we don’t want to be overwhelmed by a large guest list (as both sides of the family are absolutely huge) but we didn’t want our friends to be left out, and figured that an ‘after party’ type event would be better geared towards a younger crowd & etc.
As far as ettiquette goes, I am not entirely sure where this would fall, but a lot of people have their regular ceremony+dinner+dancing & then have an after party as well and it seems to be generally accepted.
Maybe you could run the idea past your family/bridesmaids etc and gauge the reactions, just be sure to let them know that you’re only thinking about it at this point and that nothing is set in stone as to avoid over-excitment or offense taken to the notion.
Post # 4
I think it’s okish..but you have to be careful not to come across too cheap to your guests who will no doubt bring you a gift and want to celebrate with you. I think it’s ok to have open bar, dj and plenty of cocktail food but try to let your guests know that this is the arrangement. (Some older people don’t like standing, others may be hungry if expecting a dinner, etc.)
I’d be more inclined to do a family luncheon the day after or another day to avoid other guests feeling like an after-thought.
I think overall though it’s ok to do it your way. good luck hun 🙂