Post # 17
My strategy when dealing with passive aggressive people is to just act totally oblivious. I would probably reply like, “Hi Grandma! Yes, I got your catalog – it was lovely! All is well with me, thanks! Love, Loupyloo”
And then don’t let her passive aggressive swipe bother you at all. You know she is being ridiculous – don’t spend a second feeling bad or like you should have heaped praise upon her immediately or anything.
But yeah, I think ignoring the bad behavior completely is the best way to go. Do not engage, do not apologize, do not make excuses – just act like you don’t get the underlying swipe at you at all. This drives passive aggressive people totally crazy. Lol.
Post # 18
@Loupyloo: don’t reply when she is being this way. It just reinforces to her that if she pushes your buttons, you react.
Post # 19
I’m a pretty direct person and I would be tempted to meet up with her in person and call her out on her behavior. Something like, “grandma, I’m glad you share your accomplishments with me and I enjoy keeping up to date with you, but do you relative how hurtful your comments to me are?” Or something like that.
Maybe I don’t know enough of your relationship with her to know if that would work. But if all the other grandchildren have cut communication with her, it kinda sounds like shes looking for validation and since you’re the only one that responds, all of her expectations come crashing down on you.
Post # 20
see, I flit between these twoviewpoints consantly, that is why I dont know how to handle it, I am so conflicted!
sometimes I am just like joya and think, screw it, she doesnt deserve my time at all, other times am more like Katie and think, just be polite and nice and don’t over react, it wont kill me to just be that way.
Ive stilll not responded, ha!!