(Closed) Against Favors

posted 10 years ago in Favors
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I bet few people may notice they aren’t there, but I don’t think anyone would be upset by it. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

I feel mostly the same way…I am wondering if buying seeds in bulk, and putting in cute DIY containers is enough?  That way there is something, and it will be cute, but it will be very low cost (I already have the DIY stuff for invites, etc.)  CDs are also cute & reusable/cheap.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2009

We’re thinking of getting a photobooth and since whoever uses it gets to keep a copy of their pictures with our wedding date/monogram, we figure that’s a favor. right? Those things are a waste… there’s very few people who care to kee the "keepsakes" like programs and table cards.

I really think there are a lot of wedding details people don’t notice. don’t waste your money.

Post # 6
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Worker bee

We weren’t planning on having favors, but FI’s parents have offered to supply yummy Berger cookies for that purpose. How can you say no to those?

I agree that favors are absolutely not necessary. Edible ones are a nice touch, but anything "keepsakey" is not worth it in my book. 

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: Small church ceremony, museum reception

no one will miss them! let it go…

 

unless you give edibles (who says no to sweets?) it’s really not very worth the extra trouble and expense.

Post # 8
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Worker bee

My soon-to-be-bride and I are letterpessing cards explaining that in lieu of favors, a donation has been made in the memory of her grandmother and my mother towards the National Kidney Foundation and the Dana-Farber Cancer Institute. That way the money spent goes to a good cause, and the loved ones we wish were there will be there in spirit.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

I do think that guests appreciate some kinds of favors.  We had small boxes of locally made chocolates, and they were a big hit.  However, I also think that a lot of the kinds of personalized stuff that is sold to be used as favors undoubtedly ends up in the trash.  I’m sure that I wouldn’t be horribly offended if there weren’t favors at a wedding.  So really, do whatever you like as far as this goes!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

englishmuffin, I’m so with you!  At most of the weddings I attend, I wind up back at the hotel room agonizing over whether it’s OK to toss my paper fan/plastic dove/random other thing in the trash … I usually do, and I feel bad about it because I know it was a "gift" for me, but I just don’t need more stuff.

That said, I’ve kept two favors.  One was a mix CD made by a couple with amazing taste in music; the other was a really nice pilsner glass.  Edible favors are also great, I wish more couples did them! 

If I have extra room in the budget and think of something the guests would actually take home and use and enjoy, I might go for it — but I’m absolutely not going to just buy some little trinket just so I can say we gave out favors.  Useless favors = more garbage = bad for the environment!

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I thought photo booth pictures were enough of a favor too but my mom wanted to get those picture frames to go with them. I didn’t like the way they looked and didn’t think anyone would take them so I am making magnets instead. It’s a lofty project (600 magnets – 4 for each guest) but I love them and they are more us than some plastic picture frame.

Here is an example:

http://www.etsy.com/view_listing.php?ref=sr_gallery_1&listing_id=9304129

Post # 13
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Worker bee

I actually am one of the few people who DOES notice favors, apparently.  Although, I too am with everyone else with the getting rid of keepsakey things.  It may be nice for YOU to have something with your names and wedding date on it, but your guests have no use for them really.  I am in favor or edible favors or things people can use.  We are doing coffee mugs filled with an assortment of tea bags, hot cocoa mix, apple cider mix, and cappuccino mix.  I’m hoping people don’t think it’s stupid…..but I thought they’d like something to warm up with since the wedding will be in cooler weather.  I guess I’ll be a grouch now and say I hate when favors are obviously cheap….my sister in law gave everyone a single tealight candle…….you can get a bag of one hundred of those for a few bucks…..that was just so obviously cheap that I thought i’d have rather they hadn’t even bothered because it seemed obvious to me that it was just to get it over with.  They weren’t even scented or anything!  I think a favor should say "Thank you….really, I mean it!"  You can easily do it cheaply with a candy treat without being so cheap as a 5 cent candle.  Good luck!

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I wouldn’t notice if there weren’t favors. For our wedding, I used the paper I had leftover from making my invites to make bookmarks explaining that we’d chosen to donate to charity in lieu of favors. In a way though, I’m still hoping that people will use the bookmark! I like the idea of our guests having something they’d use and that would remind them of us, but it wasn’t something I was willing to go out of my way for since most will probably toss them.

If you don’t like the idea of favors at all (understandably) then don’t stress over it, especially if you’re doing Out of Town bags, etc. Your guests might appreciate not having one extra thing to take home with them. 

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

@NatiSylv: I love the idea of donating to a charity and letting guests know you’ve done so in the form of a simple bookmark. What a great idea. May have to borrow that one…

 

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2008

The bookmark idea is great!  We finally decided to donate the money we would have spent on favors to our church…all the guests will see that it definitely needs some TLC 🙂  I was going to write a little poem explaining our decision, maybe display it on the gift table.  Hopefully that will show our guests that we were thinking of them and appreciate their attendance…without spending money on something they might just throw away.

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