(Closed) Age and Engagement (and snarky exes)

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
46420 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would just ignore her. She is trying to get your goat- get a reaction out of you. Don’t give her the satisfaction.

Post # 4
792 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I second just ignore her ๐Ÿ™‚

People like that tend to just be jealous and a bit childish, they enjoy thinking they are getting to you, so don’t let her get to you, easier said than done, I know ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
1715 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Dont bother even trying. Its your BFs job to take care of things with this girl not you. My Fiance and I met when I was 19 and he was 27 so I get the whole age thing. Im glad your family seems to have accepted your Boyfriend or Best Friend in a similar way as mine was at the time. Best of luck and just be happy with him and forget about her. Will her acceptance or crazy really interfear with your love.

Post # 6
1595 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

it is the responsibility of your SO to tell her to cut it off, he needs to stand up for you to prove that this relationship is serious to him, I don’t believe *you* can really say much to her that would change her opinion…

-she sees you as a threat for whatever reason- people don’t like change- whether it be because she thinks it is out of character for someone she knows to date someone so young (and it is out of her comfort zone and understanding of a once familiar person). I am going to be honest here since you requested the truth AND your situation may very well be different BUT some people do joke around when a 30 year old man dates someone who is just 18, people think “what kind of man would want to date someone so young?”, it is not so much the age difference but the place you are in, in your life right now. At the end of the day, you just have to follow your heart and ignore what anyone else has to say, but your SO needs to be supportive as well.

Post # 7
4153 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Ignore her, she’s just jealous.

There’s 11.5 years between SO (33) and me (21).  But most people don’t know and those who do couldn’t care less.

If it doesn’t bother you it should bother her.  It’s got nothing to do with her who you guys decide to date.

Post # 8
2086 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards

Why is he showing you her messages if he knows you are hurt by them, instead of telling her to stop? That’s middle school garbage (listen to what Susie said about you!).

If a friend of mine said nasty things about my fiance, I’d shut them down in a second and I sure wouldn’t show the hurtful comments to my fiance!

Post # 10
3452 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

He should just block her on FB and from calling/texting his phone.  She’s just bitter. 

Post # 11
2143 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

This just goes to show that age has nothing to do with emotional maturity (something I wish more people realized)

I’d recomend to your SO that he block her from FB and ignore her calls. She obviously has nothing worthwhile to contribute as a friend to him.

Post # 12
2411 posts
Buzzing bee



it is the responsibility of your SO to tell her to cut it off, he needs to stand up for you to prove that this relationship is serious to him

I strongly agree with this.

Post # 13
60 posts
Worker bee

@StefLovesJamie:  “Thanks for all the advice! I’m new here and making my way around the Bee…however, I’ve been a lurker for quite some time :)”

Haha I love the honesty, because that is me also!! ๐Ÿ™‚ Hope you find the answers you’re looking for!

Post # 14
790 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Ignore her and make sure your guy lets you know when she contacts him but reassures you that he’s handling it without you knowing the details of the communication. My Fiance had an evil ex – and I mean evil. She kept IMing him and went so far as to make up different IM personalities who proceeded to do bizarre, stalking kinds of things. He ended up having to threaten her with contacting the police before she finally went away for good. You have to trust your guy and he has to make his ex go away. Don’t worry about age differences.

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