Post # 1
Please share what your age will be when you marry (or when you did marry) for the FIRST time.
I just married in June for the first time at the age of 50!
I can remember in my 20s being bombarded with the question (often at other people’s weddings), “When are you going to get married?” At some point in my 30s, people stopped asking that, and instead began asking, “How come you never got married?”
I lived under the shadow of all the research that said if a woman didn’t married by a certain age it was never going to happen. I think one study in particular said that if a woman was not married by 35, she had a better chance of being struck by lightning than of getting married.
I guess I was struck by lightning!
Post # 3
@Carolsays: Wow, that’s a crazy and very unlikley statistic.
If you have to wait till your 50 till you meet the one you just have to wait…better than marrying the wrong one in my opinion. Congratulations on your recent marriage.
Post # 4
In my circle, it’s 27+. However, I know that previous generations of my family married younger.
I wouldn’t believe research which says you are more likely to XYZ than to get married. There are several bees on here who married later in life.
Post # 5
I was 19. I was stupid enough to believe that you should marry your Childs dad. We were together for 6yrs at that point. It was literally the dumbest thing that I have ever done. We divorced when I was 22.
Post # 6
marriet at 19, divorced at 22, now marrying the love of my life at 31
Post # 7
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
I will be 30 when we get married and FI will be 35. Most of our friends are married now though I have a group of male friends I’ve known since middle school who are all still single. However, all my friends who got married younger than me even in their late 20s did so by sacrificing finishing school and perusing their previously dreamed about careers. I waited until I was done with grad school and established in a job. I know other people who have been able to do both successfully but for me it was also important to live on my own for awhile after grad school. I hate the comments I get that I need to hurry up and have kids right away or “my clock must be ticking”…its not and I wish people wouldn’t be so judgmental. There’s nothing wrong with waiting for the right person to come into your life.
Post # 8
@Carolsays: i am 32, FI is 36 we are both getting married for the first time.
most of FI’s friends are already married, but most of my friends are single. my MOH is 35, never married, and my BM’s are 37 and 40 and both never married.
Post # 9
@Carolsays: I will be 26, FI will be 37 at our wedding. It’ll be a first (and hopefully only) wedding for both of us. However, a woman at my church who I knew when I was in the Youth Group will be getting married next month at 55 for her first time, so you’re not the only one out there!
Post # 10
I will be getting married (for the first time) at 33 (almost 34) next summer. It’s probably an average age up here in NYC, but back home where I am from, all my friends got married 10 years ago!
Post # 11
I was determined to wait for God’s choice of a husband for myself, and I had to wait a very long time. I married for the first time at the age of 47.
I dated a number of people when I was younger and had several longer-term (i.e. lasting two years or more) relationships and had even been enaged once before, but none of those relationships was the right one for me. It wasn’t easy to wait — I didn’t date for almost my entire 30s. However, I am very glad that I waited for His plan for me.
ETA: Congratulations on your marriage!
Post # 12
I got married at 24 and my DH was 27.
Post # 13
Married at 27 (I’ll be 28 in November).
Post # 14
I will be 31 and FI will be 32 when we get married for the first time. The majority of his friends are married and have been married for a few years now. Only one of my close friends is married, everyone else is single or in long-term relationships. In my group of friends the norm is 30+ to get married for the first time, FI family/friends are wondering what has taken us so long.
Post # 15
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
31. I always wanted to get married around age 30, even though I fell in love with my now-husband at age 17!
Post # 16
I’ll be 21 in November, and getting married in May.