(Closed) Age Difference between me and FI

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I don’t see a huge issue at your age as long as you’re In the same life stage more or less. We’re 4 years apart and it’s sometimes just enough that he talks about things and I’m like “yeah… Before my time” but mostly just funny. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Not too much of a difference at all. My grandma after she divorced my grandfather years ago married a guy 17 years younger than her they have been married now a little over 20 years and are still in love. Age is just a number. My mom just recently married a man that is about 9 years younger than her he was 34 and she was 43 when they married. No big deal.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’m 27 & there is 16yrs between my SO & I. It was a minor issue in the beginning – he felt it paranoid that he was too old for me, as he’d been married before & has teenage kids. But I have never felt it be an issue & it didn’t take very long for it to be a non-issue. Though his workmates have had a lot of fun ribbing him about having a younger woman.

 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

My parents are 9 years apart also! My mom was 21 my dad was 30. They’ve been married for 27(?) years now! I think like a 20 year age difference would be a little shocking but 9 years doesnt seem like any kind of problem…

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2012

25 years between hubby and me!  Age is irrelevant; it is attitude, personality and what you both want out of life that counts.  I like to tell people that he might be older but I am more mature!  I’ve never met anyone so perfect for me!  9 years is not so much if you are in a similar place with regards to your aims for house and family- and if you make each other incredibly happy, which I assume you do!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Melp2017:  My Fiance is only 6 weeks older than me, but Iwince dated someone who was 12 years older than me. I didn’t find anything wrong with it since we got along fine. I don’t think you should worry about it.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

My Fiance is 17 years older than me. 

Funny story.  I met some of his brothers and spoke with his mom over the phone before.  I finally went to meet them at a family reunion.  Now,  I do not look 35 at all.  I got carded not to long ago at the movie theater.  Well we went to church and as we were standing outside his brothers that I had already met came over and spoke to me and his sisters came over and introduced themselves to me.  Then over came Aunt Cookie which is his aunt by his father’s side.  She hugged me and said are you FI’s daughter?  He has a 22 year old daughter.  I just stood there in shock and didn’t answer her.  She then turned to Fiance and ask is this your lil girl?  He said No, Aunt Cookie that’s mrsjjohnson2b.  She said Oops and walked away.  It was so funny. 

People make reference all the time about him being my daddy, which he is only 3 years younger than my parents, and we wouldn’t say anything then start kissing or something and they are look OH.  Age is just a number.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Melp2017:  My parents were those exact ages when they got married.  27+ years later, they are still happily married. I think as long as you can relate to one another, than there’s no problem.  

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

My gma got married at 19 to my gpa who was 36, they were together 20ish years. Shes been with her current husband for 20ish years and he is also 15ish years older. And my gpa (above gma’s ex-husband) remarried a woman who is a couple years older than my parents, I think theres 30 years between them. And they had a kid right after they got married who is a year younger than my youngest sib. I think some people have an age gap preference, whether its conscious or not. 

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Age is just a number.  I’m 21 and SO is 33.  I only notice when other people point it out.

People are in relationships because they share common interests; but some people thnk that you can’t have common interests with someone who is <insert number here> years older.  I think they’re wrong.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Age is irrelevant as long as the maturity levels, expectations and life goals are similar. No worries. I dated someone who was 10 years my senior when I was 23, and someone 8 years older when I was in college. It’s not as taboo and uncommon as people may think. 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

My Darling Husband is 12 years older than me. It doesn’t bother us in the slightest, and most people don’t notice. They probably think he’s 6 years or so older. He looks pretty young, and we act the same age. Don’t listen to what others are saying about the difference. If it doesn’t bother you, it shouldn’t bother them.

Post # 16
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753 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

That’s not a big deal at all! I’m actually 2 years older than Danny and we joke about it all the time because obviously, 2 years isn’t a huge deal, but if you’re at the same point in your life and you’re happy, I don’t see the problem with an age gap, even if it’s a large one (which, yours isn’t too big.) don’t worry about it. Even if he was 40 years older than you, as long as you’re happy, who cares? 🙂 

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