(Closed) Age difference in bridesmaids

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Include my aunt?
    Yes : (19 votes)
    95 %
    No : (1 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1211 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    If you two are close and you’re wanting to include her as a way to honor her, which I assume is the case, I think it is a WONDERFUL idea! I have not personally witnessed such an age difference, but I wouldn’t bat an eye if I saw a wedding party with it. 

    Post # 5
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    964 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I voted that you include her. If you feel awkward about how she will “mix” with the rest of the crowd, maybe you honor your relationship by asking her to do a reading or something significant to your wedding ceremony. My Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man are 32, 24, 14 and 16. Only my Maid/Matron of Honor is really doing anything, but I wanted to include the other girls since they are like my little sisters. As time gets closer, I wish I had someone else to help but my mom and aunt have been stepping up too.

    Post # 5
    Member
    7609 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    If you think she would love to be in it and you would love to have her in it, I’d say go for it.  I haven’t seen that before myself, but I don’t think I would think it was a big deal.  Just make sure she is comfortable being up there and doesn’t feel out of place!  Is she married?  If not, do you think she’d feel embarrassed in an “always a bridesmaid” sort of way?

    Post # 7
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    140 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I’m actually a bridesmaid in a wedding and I’m just the opposite… I’m in my mid-20’s and the other bridesmaids and the bride are all in their 40’s. The bride originally wanted to have us all wear the same dresses, and I tried it on to appease her, but I ended up talking to her about how a 5’4″ bridesmaid (me) and a 6′ bridesmaid cannot both wear the same short dress (it’s about 1-2″ above my knees so on the 6′ bridesmaid, it would be incredibly short – this wedding is supposed to be very traditional in a church). Luckily she decided to just have us wear the same color pallet instead… I really didn’t want to tell her the real reasons I didn’t like the dress she had me try on, it was way too old looking for me, too large and unflattering (they didn’t have any smaller sizes), and looked like something my grandmother would wear. I know it sounds mean, but I didn’t want to break her heart. I know it’s her wedding so we wear whatever she wants us to wear, I just felt like I was going to an 80’s wedding with that dress on.

    So, I would just keep it in mind when you are looking at dresses… something that the younger crowd may want, may not always make the older crowd happy and vis versa. I know it’s your day, but I’m sure you do not want her to be uncomfortable either – Not saying you’d do this, just wanted to give you some unsolicited advice from a similar situation 🙂

    Oh, I forgot to add, I do think you should ask her to be in it!!

    Post # 8
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    8884 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    I think you should and can have anyone you want as a bridesmaid 🙂

    Post # 9
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    5075 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I’d be SO honored if my niece asked me to stand up in her wedding.  

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