Post # 1
When Fi and I first started dating, it was reallyhard for both of us because of our age difference. I am 19 years younger than him….and could never be happier. He’s the most thoughtful, caring, loving, generous person I know. He was my best friend before we dated and I never would’ve thought he’d go for me.
Our relationship was mostly secretive when it began. We weren’t sure whether it was a fling or where it would go so we kept to ourselves. After we started…courting?? I guess would be the right word? We introduced each other to our families. His family was amazing. They were all very welcoming and friendly…so was mine, to the naked eye. my parents obviously had issues with him being much older then me, and so they should. If I were a parent, I would have my own concerns. With time, of course, they got to know him as I do and now I’m pretty sure they love him more than me!
My dad, who I thought wanted to kill him the day they met, now plans man-dates with him…. I’m so ecstatic.
Anyone else out there start out rough because of your age difference?
Post # 3
I’m glad it works for you. We’re only eight months apart. My husband’s grandparents were 20 years apart. My dad’s parents were eight years apart.
Post # 4
We didn’t start out rough but I wanted to chime in that my dad is 19 years older than my mom and they have been married for almost 39 years.
Post # 5
It’s so awesome to hear of other couples that have a great age difference and lasted so long… I can’t wait to start the rest of our lives. Thanks Ladies! 🙂
Post # 6
What a neat story! How did you guys meet?
I actually only have a month and 5 day age difference with my FI! LOL
Post # 7
We worked together and became fast friends… after that, like I said, it was more of a fling, then turned serious. Not the best story but it’s our story…. 😉
Post # 8
Cute. My dad and my fiance get along well enough. Dad doesn’t socialize very much to be honest. I thought my dad was gonna kill Fiance when I asked to date him. Maybe I should explain that I was only 17 (matter of fact I’d turned 17 2months before) and my fiance was 21 (turned 22 2months after we went on our first date), plus my dad had just returned from overseas with the army.There is exactly 4yrs 7months and 13 days between us. I adore the age difference because we connected so much better from the begining. I was never one for drama which was what I was seeing from my high school friends. and I really did want something more then just a boyfriend for a month or two. I wanted a man who would respect me and wouldn’t create drama in my life. We quickly became best friends and started dating soon after.
It was interesting getting used to dating someone over 21 when I was below 18. Fiance drank before we got together, but stopped almost all together so that I wouldn’t feel uncomfortable (even though he’d never drink in front of me). We went through many diffrent struggles because of our height differences (I’m below 5ft and he’s above 6ft) more so then because of our age. Like one of his friends picked on me, Fiance set him straight though. And people give us dirty stares because I look about 15.
Post # 9
The Fiance and I are only 10 days apart! My parents are 6 years apart though… and I actually think that’s more normal?
Post # 10
My fiance’ is 7 months to the day older 🙂
@jgoulart that is really cool that your family and friends are so supportive now 🙂 I know of many couples with age differences similar to yours and they are wonderful together as well!
Post # 11
We’re 11 years apart, but luckily no one made a stink about it!
Post # 12
I am almost 9 years older than my husband and was a single parent when we met so I pretty much tried to resist him at first but after we went out on our first date we were inseparable. We have been very happily married over 2 years now and have a wonderful little boy. I will say that him being so much younger than me concerned some family at first but they love him now and they’ve stopped calling me a cradle robber, lol.
Post # 13
I was 18 when i met Craig…and he was 29 and mum was a bit “he’s too old for you!!!” LOL but she grew to love him… well its not that she never liked him but she loves him now. never had problems with his parents 🙂
I’m 24 next month and he’ll be turning 35 in may!
I love him so much!
Age is just a number! and doesn’t look older than me… well i don’t think so anyway… and he is very young at heart <3
Post # 14
my Fiance and i are 6 years and 1 week apart, at first it was a big deal because of me being so young, not just to my parents but to us, we met when i was 15 through work and because close friends and started dating when i was 17, we’ve been together for almost 3 years and now everyone loves him!
Post # 15
For a long time I would only date men who were older than me, but then I met my Fiance who is 3 years younger. 🙂
Post # 16
@angee524 = That was one of our initial issues, the whole “cradle robber” comment, but once his fam got to know me, and mine got to know him, that stopped quick. They could see we were meant to be!
@MrsJellybean = I can see how your situation was hard also! I was only 19 when I started dating Fi who was 38 at the time (small heart attack for my dad!) but like I said, once people saw us together, they knew. We are ourselves, no walls up, no hesitations, and we make each other laugh. Its great to hear how your man stuck up for you around his own friends! Thats a hard thing for guys to come across… friends vs. gfriend. LOL
@babypebbles = I know exactly what you mean! My parents were definately hesitant at first… but his family was super supportive. I especially got along with his brothers wife – Future Sister-In-Law C== She’s wonderful and got me through some tough times when we had to deal with our age difference. Shes one of my BM’s now. LOVE HER!