Post # 1
How old is too old for the kiddie table?
Would you have the older children sit together at a tween/teen table or with their parents?
I figure parents with children 18 or older living at home will not have hurt feelings if their children are not invited. Really, I’m hoping that’s the case for kids aged 15, 16, or 17…reasonable?
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Post # 2
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
1. You are inviting younger childern, but not older ones? I am confused.
2. As a parent, I do not like kiddie tables. I want to be able to sit with my child and monitor him. I don’t want my kid to be the one who gets a little carried away and acts a fool because I am seated on the other side of the room, have no way to see what he is up to, and thus have no way to know that he is in need of some correction and redirection. Perhaps I am sensitive because DS has ADHD and was always quite the handful. But I’ve seen far too many brides come here to whine about children who misbehaved at weddings. Don’t want my kid to act up? Then don’t seat him away from me and inhibit my ability to effectively parent him.
Post # 3
1. I don’t really want children at the event, but my husband thinks if our kids are there guests will expect they’re kids to be there too. This is for a vow renewal. I figure if a parent askes if their kid can come we will accommodate requests.
2. Older children don’t need a babysitter and would likely wouldn’t want to come to a wedding anyway so I figure parents would want to bring smaller kids that still need a babysitter.
Do you think you could have an adult conversation with your child at the table? Would your son want your food instead of his kiddie meal? One thought I had was sitting all guests that came as a family (parents plus kids) at the same table.
Post # 4
I personally don’t like it when a bride splits up a family. I would just seat the kids with the parents.
Post # 5
lovekiss: I’m not a parent, but as a host I feel the exact same way! I don’t want a rowdy table of kids without anyone to keep them calm and focused during dinner and important parts of the night. If you’re opting to bring your child to my wedding, Id think you would be responsible for them. Tossing them at a kiddie table should not be the parents’ equivalent of a babysitter for the night!
Post # 6
I really think it is far better for family units to be seated together. Espeically young ones, as parents may need to help them with their food, or at least monitor that they are eating a meal and not skipping to desert. I can’t count the number of times during a meal with our nephew we have to tell him he needs to eat one more bite before he leaves the table.
I also find there are very few “adult” conversations that can be had in public that can’t be had with kids around. We have one friend out of our group that has a kid. We don’t shy away from any topic, even in front of her. Her dad may need to explain why she can’t talk about something later.
And I think your husband is wrong. Your kids at your vow renewal makes sense. They are YOUR kids. Everyone else’s kids can stay home. At my wedding, the only children invited are children of our family. My parents have some friends with young children still, and none of them are invited. As long as the rule is applied universally, you are okay. It just is dicy when you start saying Cousin Suzzy can bring her kid because they are well behaved, but Cousin Kate can’t bring hers because her brat is horrid.
Post # 7
I second/third the “no kiddie table” rule. Just seat them with their parents so you don’t have to make that call.
Post # 8
Kids will behave much better when seated with their parents.
Post # 9
Ok sounds like a family unit table will be the best bet. Thanks guys.