Post # 1
I have an 18 month old daughter and SO has no kids. We are getting married this fall and can’t decide if we should start trying right away or wait a year. So my question is how big of an age gap do you have or plan to have with your kids?
Post # 3
I have no kids and if I decided to have 2 instead of 1 (which I would aim for!) I would want them close in age like Irish twins close. That way I can get all the diapers etc done around the same time!
Post # 4
I have three kids and the oldest two are 5 years apart and the youngest is 4 years from the middle (9 years from the oldest).
I absolutely LOVE the way I did it because it was easy. My kids were all potty trained and able to talk and sleeping through the night before I had another kid. Two kids is not twice as hard……….it’s 200 times as hard. I look at folks who have them close, a lot of my friends did that, and it seems insane. They are miserable for a good three to four years of their life because they have two (or more!) babies in the house, all those diaper, they never sleep, it’s a nightmare! I don’t know if I would have survived having lots of babies at one time.
BUT………as a PP has stated…….you get it all out of the way at once. The way I did it, I started over every time brand new. I forgot stuff, it was hard to go back to not sleeping, and I’m approaching 40 and my youngest is still pretty young.
My two cents… 😉
Post # 5
We’re not pregnant/TTC yet, but have an 8yo Dirty Delete. I would have loved to give her a sibling yearssss ago, but we held off on it because of finances/life/issues. Honestly, I go back-and-forth about adding to the family (because of such a huge age gap), but deep in my heart I know that I really want another baby… Darling Husband does, too.
Post # 6
@Ninteenthchance: I used to think that a 3-4 yr gap was perfect, because that the gap between my brother and I, but since its taking me so long to conceive, Darling Husband and I had decided to try for the second 6 months after the first is born (hopefully there is a first). I think whatever you guys are comfortable with will be perfect. :))) Congratualtions btw
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2012 - Schloss Heiligenberg/ Spearfish Canyon Lodge
I think I would like to have my kids 2-3 years apart. I am 6 1/2 years apart from my brother and we don’t know each other well. I wouldn’t want that for my kids.
Post # 8
I have a 3 month old now. We are planning on trying again later this year. So 1-2 years apart.
Post # 9
@Ivelanded: I am not a mom yet but I totally agree with this poster!!!
Post # 10
I would *ideally* like around 3 years between each kids.
@Ivelanded: My DH’s sister and her husband have 4 – 4 year old, 2 year old, 1 year old and just had their last this previous week (She also miscarried between the 4 and 2 year olds). I just look at her and feel soooooo bad. I don’t know how she does it, she does always seem exhausted and always chasing a kid. But she is the sweetest, most patient person ever, and she said while it’s hard now, she’s looking forward to her kids being close when they’re older. So I guess that has it’s perks, but that is definitely NOT for me!
Post # 11
@MrsR4ever: I feel the same!
Initially, I wanted my kids 2 years apart, but since its taking us much longer than we thought to conceive, I’ve changed my tune considerably. I could see us TTC as soon as 3 months after baby #1 is born. If there’s a 3rd kid in there, I wouldn’t be surprised to see myself as a mom with 3 kids under 5. It’ll be crazy. But, I’ll be so happy to have them.
Post # 12
@razzzzzz: You will be a lovely mom of 3, lovey!
Post # 13
I have two boys from my previous marriage, thet are 2 1/2 years apart and that is exactly how I wanted it! My sister and I are 2 1/2 years apart and I thought it was a good differance.
I know also have a Step Daughter, so I have a 6 year old Daughter, a 7 year old Son and a 10 year old son….
and now 5 weeks pregnant… which will make it about 11 years between my oldest and youngest.
I also have three siblings that are 10 years or more younger than me. lol
Post # 14
2-3 years. Your body needs at least two years to heal between pregnancies.
Post # 15
well i have a 10 year old, and he will probably be 12 before we TTC. we still arent sold if we will have another child or if we can, but id love to give him one
Post # 16
I don’t have kids yet but I’m planning on having at least a 4 year gap between my future children.