(Closed) Age-gap relationship (5 or more year)?

posted 6 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 2
147 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I’m 45 my husband is 37 we work absolutely perfectly  it really depends on your personalities i think

Post # 3
5113 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion

My husband and I have a five+ year gap. We work well and always have. It helps that we were in fairly similar places in our lives when we met. Most of the time we forget we have an age gap.

Post # 4
720 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

DH and I started dating when I was 19 and he was 26. We got married in October and I had just turned 25 and he was turning 32 in a few months. Other than I wasn’t drinking age there wasn’t an issue at all. People think I’m older half the time because he can be a goof ball.

Post # 5
4023 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY

My husband is 20 years older than me. Does it matter to me? No, because I love him and he loves me back. He doesn’t look his age, and no one that knows us thinks twice about the gap. 

Of course some things are different than they would be if I were with someone closer in age (new aches that he never had before, metabolism slowing) but I wouldn’t trade him for the world. 

Post # 6
19 posts

My Fiance is 16 years older than me.  we’ve never experienced any issues because of the age gap….we don’t even think about it!

Post # 7
915 posts
Busy bee

I’m 29 and my husband is 36. Been together 6 years, and no issues. 

Post # 8
6582 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I am 6 years older than my husband. It works fine for us. I am 39 and he just turned 33. We will celebrate 6 years of marriage in October.

Post # 9
1629 posts
Bumble bee

My Fiance is 12 years older than I am, and we’ve been together and very happy for 13 years now. 

Post # 10
1767 posts
Buzzing bee

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drizzbee: Ours is just under 6 years difference (he’s younger). I tend to be a little immature for my age however he is much more mature than his age so we kind of balance each other out lol.

Post # 11
131 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I’m 7 years older than my Fiance. We’ve been together six years, getting married next month. We’ve never had an issue with the age gap. We met at a time when we were in the same place so everything worked out. 🙂

Post # 12
1052 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

My DH is 14 years older and it’s a non issue. It’s just funny with cultural references from our childhoods etc. Otherwise it doesn’t even come up.

Post # 13
1042 posts
Bumble bee

I’ve actually heard the opposite. That couples of similar ages don’t work out as well because you need someone who will be the more mature/levelheaded one in the relationship. Honestly I think age =/= maturity so it’s more of a personality and fit thing.  Fiance is 8 years older than me and we seem to get along just fine.

Post # 14
1519 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

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drizzbee:  I’m 27, Fiance is 34. I don’t consider 7 years that big of a gap (I’ve always dated older, my minimum age gap in a serious relationship was 5 years) but it works for us.

It didn’t work too well the first time we dated though – I was 19, he was 26 – because he was really conscious of the age difference and would always mention it (eg “I can’t believe you never watched *some obscure 80s children’s TV show*, you’re such a baby”). I skipped a year at school so I’ve always been the youngest in most groups of friends I’ve been part of, and I’m a bit touchy about the whole “omg you’re soooo young” thing. This time around he’s matured and realised that it was very annoying. He never mentions our age difference now and nor do I.

Post # 15
452 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I’m 7 years older than my SO (he’s 29, I’m 36) and we’ve been dating for 1.5 years.  All my previous serious relationships were with guys within 1 year of my age or older.  To be honest I felt weird and cougar-y about it at first, but we’re so incredibly compatible that I rarely think about it now.  He didn’t have a history of dating older women, but doesn’t care about our age gap at all.  On one of our first dates I asked whether my older age was weird for him, and he said “Nah, it’s perfect.  We’ll die around the same time, since you have a longer life expectancy.”  :-p  Luckily I look a lot younger than my age, while he looks a bit older than his age, so most people when meeting us can’t tell that I’m older.  We don’t get weird looks or comments like couples with more obvious age gaps might get.

For women in their 30’s and older, I highly recommend dating younger guys.  He has so much less baggage than the older guys I’ve dated in my 30’s.  And his *ahem* stamina is pretty great. 🙂

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