Age gaps: If you married a younger (5-15 years) man, what's your experience?

posted 1 month ago in Emotional
Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I am 7 years older than my husband. He was 29 and I was 36 when we first met (on Tinder). I didn’t really consider him seriously as a romantic partner in the beginning, but after a couple months we realized we had something really special.  We married when he was 31 and I was 38, and I’m now expecting my (and our) first child at 39.  We never got any backlash, and no one told me that it wouldn’t work because of our age difference. He is pretty mature and responsible for his age.  I am more established in my career and have a higher income/more savings, so the power dynamic is definitely different than in most relationships with a younger woman/older man. But we feel very much like equals. Before H, I mostly dated older men, and they tended to have more baggage (divorce, kids, etc). It was refreshing to date H after those guys, since he was very much baggage-free.

Post # 17
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Bumble Beekeeper

I’m five years older , well  5 and few months actually. We have  honestly  never noticed any  effect at any time and he was really quite young when we met.

As with raspberrybidet ( I love that name!!) I earned  more and was better established , but he is openly proud  –  plus   very laid back and merely enjoys the benefits rather than thinking his balls are going to atrophy  

 Now we are old enough for any difference to be indistinguishable   lol . 

Post # 25
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2029

konablend :  I’ve had a couple similar experiences.  I’m not bashing younger people, just that my experiences have not been positive.  I dated 3 guys, the biggest gap was 7 years younger.  They were in no way ready to settle down and be serious.  Funny enough all 3 them said how they liked older women and were ready for something serious.  All 3 ended up hurting me by rejecting me in a cold manner.  I’ve had better luck w/men my age or a bit older.

Post # 26
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2029

MrsBtoBe14 :  Some guy (girls too), never grow up.  I know one guy I dated will prob never change.  Always broke, no ambition/goals and no steady job.

Post # 28
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Helper bee

Well my parents have been married for over 40 years and my dad is eight years younger than my mom, so it works sometimes!

Post # 29
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Bumble Beekeeper

MrsBtoBe14 :  

He was 24/5 and I was  29/30  (and divorced ) , so,  not kids . 

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 1983

The older the people are, the less the smaller gap matters and the more the larger gap matters. 20/25 would be a bit hard; 40/45 wouldn’t matter. 30/45 could be fine, but 65/80 would probably be a problem.

We are six years apart; it’s never mattered. 

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