(Closed) Age of previous marriage

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Post # 4
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Sugar bee

@KoiKove:

Previous marriage

  • Age started dating (you/him or her)-  Her: early-mid 20s/him: Late twenties
  • Months/years together when you:

    • Moved in together- 1 month
    • Got Engaged- 2 years – half of that he was away with the army
    • Got Married- 1 year later – 7 months of that he was away with the army

  • Months/years married- 1.8 months – but half of that he was away with the army

Current relationship

  • Age started dating- Me 39- him 33
  • Months/years together when you:

    • Moved in together- 2 months
    • Got Engaged- 7 months
    • Got Married- 1.8 years

  • Age married- 41 and 34

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

This is a very good question. Darling Husband and I have both been previously married. We both married our high school sweethearts when we were very young. We both eventually outgrew those relationships. All of us (incl our ex’s) all agree that we had our biggest changes between the ages of 20-25. After 25 none of us fit into those relationships anymore as we were not established adults prior to getting married. Darling Husband and I both ended our previous relationships.

Mwitter’s Previous marriage

  • Age started dating (you/him or her)- 17/18

 

  • Months/years together when you:

    • Moved in together- 1 year

  • Got Engaged- 2 year

  • Got Married- 2 1/2 year

 

  • Age married (you/him or her)- 19/20

 

  • Months/years married- 7 years

 

  • Age divorced (you/him or her)- 26

 

  • DH’s Previous marriage

     

    • Age started dating (you/him or her)- she was 16 he was 17

  • Months/years together when you:

    • Moved in together- about 2 years

  • Got Engaged- about 3 years

  • Got Married- 5 years

  • Age married (you/him or her)- they were 21 and 22

  • Months/years married- 4 years however, 6 months got seperated/back together then seperated again after 18 months/ then sought counseling/ then she got pregnant/then they got seperated again

  • Age divorced (you/him or her)- they eventually divorced at 25 and 26 they were married for 4 years and during that time they were actually together for 19 months

 

Our Current relationship

  • Age started dating- I was 28 Darling Husband 27

 

  • Months/years together when you:

    • Moved in together- 4 months

  • Got Engaged- 8 months

  • Got Married- 18 months

 

  • Age married- 30/29

 

 

 

 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Previous marriage

  • Age started dating me:22  / him:32
  • Months/years together when you:

    • Moved in together- we didn’t
    • Got Engaged- 1
    • Got Married-  2

  • Age married (you/him or her)- me:24 / him 34
  • Months/years married- 7
  • Age divorced (you/him or her)- me: 32 / him 42

Current relationship

  • Age started dating- me: 34/ him: 38
  • Months/years together when you:

    • Moved in together- we haven’t
    • Got Engaged- 3.5
    • Got Married- not yet 🙂

  • Age married- not yet! 🙂 but I will be 39 and he will be 43

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Previous marriage

  • Age started dating (you/him or her)-   we were both 17
  • Months/years together when you:
    • Moved in together-  we moved in together after 2 years
    • Got Engaged-   we got engaged after 1 year of meeting
    • Got Married-     we got married 5 years after moving in together

  • Age married (you/him or her)-     we were both 24
  • Months/years married-                we was married for 7 years
  • Age divorced (you/him or her)-     we were both 31 when we divorced

Current relationship

  • Age started dating-            we were both 35 when we met
  • Months/years together when you: 
    • Moved in together-   we moved in together after 1 year
    • Got Engaged-           we recently got engaged….after 15 years! 
    • Got Married-             we are getting married next year,  after 16                           years  together

  • Age married-                     we will both be 51

Post # 8
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Blushing bee

Previous marriage

  • Age started dating (you/him or her)-18
  • Months/years together when you:

    • Moved in together- 7months
    • Got Engaged- 4months (on my 19th b-day)
    • Got Married- 3 years

  • Age married (you/him or her)- just turned 22 yrs old
  • Months/years married- 1.5 yrs
  • Age divorced (you/him or her)- 24 yrs old-divorce finalized (7 months inbetween seperation and the official finalization)

Current relationship

  • Age started dating- 25
  • Months/years together when you:

    • Moved in together- still haven’t, waiting until marriage since I have a 5 yr old daughter from my 1st marriage
    • Got Engaged- 29
    • Got Married- will be 29

  • Age married-will be 29 when we get maried

I wanted to have a “break” before getting into a new relationship since my 1st marriage was my 1st real relationship, but Mr. M came along right at the same time as he moved out-we didn’t jump right into dating, we bcame friends first, then dating came later.  We took things very slow and he didn’t meet my daughter who was only about a year and a half until about 6 months into our dating.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee

Double post!

As a side note though-
There’s a HUGE difference between us as a couple and my first relationship.  He’s much more mature, has a job, and although he doesn’t live with my daughter and I, he helps out around my house with chores.  Mr. M’s father is a pastor and said to him yesterday, “There’s soething very noble about chosing to be with someone who already has a child.  It’s one thing to have a child of your own, you naturally love them, it’s another to choose to love another’s child and accept them as your own.”  Very wise words indeed!!!

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Previous marriage

  • Age started dating (you/him or her)- 19/20
  • Months/years together when you:

    • Moved in together-1 month
    • Got Engaged-3 months
    • Got Married-6 months

  • Age married (you/him or her)- 19/20
  • Months/years married- 6 years 6 months
  • Age divorced (you/him or her)- 26/27

Current relationship

  • Age started dating- 26/25
  • Months/years together when you:

    • Moved in together-2 months
    • Got Engaged-3 weeks
    • Got Married-We have a May 13th, 2012 wedding set

  • Age married- I’ll be 27 by then and he’ll be 26.

Post # 12
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10366 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Yup, there’s a definite trend here between really young to marry and divorce! Interesting.

Post # 13
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3316 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Previous marriage

  • Age started dating (you/him or her)- 21/25
  • Months/years together when you:

    • Moved in together-9 months
    • Got Engaged-1 year
    • Got Married-2 years

  • Age married (you/him or her)-23/27
  • Months/years married-19 years
  • Age divorced (you/him or her)-42/46

Current relationship

  • Age started dating-47/32
  • Months/years together when you:

    • Moved in together-Almost immediately.  (She lived in England at the time, so we couldn’t just “date.”)
    • Got Engaged-8 years
    • Got Married-9 years

  • Age married-56/41

I wasn’t extraordinarily young when I married the first time.  However, I think age played a major part in the issues.  When we started dating, I was in college and he had been in the working world a few years, so he could be the almost parental figure who led me and gave me advice.  When I got more mature myself and wanted a more equal relationship, he couldn’t handle it.

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Previous marriage

• Age started dating (you/him or her)- 16/19

• Months/years together when you:

o Moved in together-1 month before we married

o Got Engaged-8 years…we dated for 4.5 solid years, then were always in touch and getting together every now and then when we got a chance.  We weren’t even dating when he proposed.  I was livivng in ATL and he was in AR.  We just knew that we were meant to be together because we’d been in love for so long.

o Got Married-8 years…3 months after he proposed

• Age married (you/him or her)- 23/26

• Months/years married- 2 years, 1 month

• Age divorced (you/him or her)- 25/28

I don’t think age played a part in our marriage deteriorating; I think maturity did.  He lived with his parents until we got married, I’ve lived mostly on my own since I was out of high school and moved to Atlanta by myself on a whim.  He never wanted to leave momma’s side.  He never wanted to grow up and act his age…he wanted to be a teenager, partying and using illicit drugs even after I finally convinced him to join the Air Force.  I was expected to put up with everything he did, because that’s how his parents treated him.  I think he got married, not necessarily because he WANTED to, but because he saw he was getting left behind by all his friends.

 

Current relationship

• Age started dating- 26/23

• Months/years together when you:

o Moved in together-2 months

o Got Engaged-3 months

o Got Married-We have a Feb 24th, 2012 wedding set…exactly 1 year from the day we met.

• Age married- I’ll be 27 by then and he’ll be 24.

 

My Fiance is younger than me, but is very responsible and mature for his age, trust me, it took some convincing for me to even consider more than 1 date with him.  He WANTS a family.  He WANTS to take care of me.  I know he will make an amazing husband and father.  I know many may think we are rushing things, but when it’s right, it’s right.

 

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2011

First marriage..met when I had just turned 21, he was 22

Moved in together, 21/23

Had baby, 22/23

Got married, 23/25

Married 5 years, split up at 28/30.

Current relationship…met when I was 32, he was 34

Got engaged at 35/37

Still haven’t moved in together!

Getting married 11/11/11, when I will be 41 and he is 43…you know us crazy kids, always rushing into things!!!  Wink

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Previous marriage

  • Age started dating (you/him or her)- 22/33
  • Months/years together when you: 
    • Moved in together- 2 months
    • Got Engaged- 4 months
    • Got Married- 1 year 4 months

  • Age married (you/him or her)- 23/34
  • Months/years married- 4 years, 6 months
  • Age divorced (you/him or her)- 28/40 (I hadn’t had my birthday)

 

Age was definitely an issue. He was 11 years older than me, and I was too young and inexperienced to recognize his abusive tendencies. However, the abuse was the ultimate killer of that marriage.

 

Previous marriage

  • Age started dating (you/him or her)- 29/37
  • Months/years together when you: 
    • Moved in together- 9 months
    • Got Engaged- 11 months
    • Got Married- 1 year 2 months

  • Age married (you/him or her)- 30/38
  • Months/years married- 10 years
  • Age divorced (you/him or her)- 40/48

Age didn’t have anything to do with it. We met less than a year after my divorce. I married him on the rebound, because he was kind to me after I had been in abusive relationship. I stayed with him, because for a long time we worked even if I wasn’t in love. I didn’t know I wasn’t in love until about five years into the marriage.  

Current relationship

  • Age started dating- 44/48
  • Months/years together when you:
    • Moved in together- 4 months
    • Got Engaged- 1 year
    • Got Married- 1 year 8 months

  • Age married- 45/49

 

This time is different. I’m old enough and experienced enough to know myself and recognize true compatibility. I was on my own long enough to know it’s not a rebound relationship. I never wake up or go to sleep wondering why I’m with him. For the first time in my life, I’m in love. 

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