- 6 years ago
- Wedding: December 2009
I went to buy some children’s books for a coworker who is having a baby. When I got home, Darling Husband asked what I just bought. I showed him the books and told him they were for a coworker. He said my co-worker was a loser for asking for books (in a joking kind of tone). I told him that research shows that having a library of 20 books by the time a baby is 24 months old, will increase the likelihood of the child finishing at least 2 years of college. He said that he never read books when he was a child and he went to college and then I went ballistic!!
I am an educator and I understand the importance of early childhood education. I have my own library that I of course use for my students but plan to have for my future kids. My problem is that Darling Husband is always wanting to disprove all research I cite with his own experience. “My dad never showed much affection and I turned out fine.” “My family was poor and we all graduated from college.” “I never read books and I finished college.” REALLY? Because no research suggests that there are no exceptions to any rule.
AGGGGH I’m so irritated and I just asked him not to talk to me. He got upset because I overreacted. Maybe I did, but it’s frustrating that he does that every time I bring up some kind of research about education or child development. I know he just has a hard time being sympathetic to other’s situation because he didn’t have it easy and he’s a very successful person now. I myself went through a lot growing up and I turned out fine, but that doesn’t mean that everyone can do it. He says that I don’t respect his ideas and that he’s just expressing what he thinks, but man just back it up with evidence! Jeez! One instance is no evidence what so ever!
Tomorrow is our anniversary and I don’t want to fight, but I’m just so upset! D: