(Closed) Aggravated about name change

posted 4 years ago in Logistics
Post # 2
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2188 posts
Buzzing bee

Megbee617:  I’m with you. It’s non-stop. I’ve also just been married 2 months and I’m midway through the process. Half my credit cards are changed, my id is different, but almost everything else has my maiden name. I run a lot of accounts at my job, so there’s seemingly unlimited accounts and I still feel weird introducing myself with the new last name.

Post # 3
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9527 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

We married a month ago. I was at the SSA office last week to change my name but forgot to bring my passport. I’m American but was born overseas, damnit. Although not legal yet I am used to the new name. I like it better than the maiden. It is weird bouncing back and forth though. Work has me at the new name and grad is the old. I keep signing things Julia X, formerly Y. To avoid confusion which in reality is probably annoying. 

Post # 4
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34 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2014

haha! This is my daily struggle… We’ve been married almost a year and I am just warming up to my new name because I started a new job and they only know me by my married name, but I’m like who is that person?? oh me!!!

I still use my old (maiden) gmail address (standard name/last name)… and still need to change my drivers license (oops!) even though SSN is changed. Honestly, for some subscription, especially junk, I don’t think I will ever change my name because I’m too lazy, but of course bank accounts, credit cards are changed.

Post # 5
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2238 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Megbee617:  I feel you. It’s been almost 6 months since we got married and I STILL have tons of things I haven’t changed yet…the electric bill, old credit cards, etc. It’s a pain in the ass. Not to mention I just changed my email address to a new one with my married name, so now I have to change every single account I have online. I feel like it’ll never be done with!

Post # 6
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2005 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Megbee617:  my brother accidently called his wife by her maiden name when answering her phone the other day. It was taken well, she made a joke like “oh i see. I’ve been disowned then..” but she is a super kind hearted and nice person haha. (they been married since May, so about 6 months.) 

There are several people at work that used to call a sgt we had by her previous married name, and never her new one, regardless of there years of marriage. I think some people just dont realize how important a name is, or how rude they are being. I mean. Us women change our name to sort of “belong” (in a non-horrible property way, but a we-have-the-same-name-so-we-are-one-family sort of way) to our husbands. For some women, like me, it is hard to trade the name you’ve made for his, but I feel it is an act of romance, and necessary for me (personally) to do. 

Sorry it has been so frustrating! I say kindly correct people when they call you the wrong name. “You mispronounced MARRIEDNAME” with a laugh. 😛 

Thats what I do when people say my name incorrectly, I say, “how are you saying that?” 

Post # 7
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437 posts
Helper bee

My name change process was terrible. I made a list of everything I needed to change. All the financial stuff was cake. My biggest gripe was with work. My secretary didn’t know what I needed to do. She even gave me the wrong address to have some of my benefits changed. The worst was my health insurance. I sent in the correct form and copies of my marriage certificate twice and the man who assured me he had received and forwarded it to the next office never did. It didn’t leave his desk for three months. That next office called and demanded it and imagine my shock when it was effective on my next pay period. In the meantime I was dual enrolled, so my husband’s insurance wouldn’t process any of my claims or his. It was a mess.

I know that this won’t make you feel any better, but I just got a letter from the agency a few weeks ago (after my name change has been in effect for over a year) that my secretary didn’t inform the medical office and they still had my old name on file. What a mess. And I had been using my new name on all my medical forms for a year, so it’s not like I didn’t tell them. She just didn’t do her end of it.

Post # 9
Member
2005 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Megbee617:  wow thats rough!! I am lucky I do not have that sort of issue with my job. 🙂 

Post # 10
Hostess
823 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

theatrejulia:  You had to bring your passport?! What a pain! I was born in Germany, but I’m American and I just brought my Drivers License, SS card, and birth certificate that says “American Citizen born Abroad” 

Post # 11
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9527 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

rubyrane:  I do not have my birth certificate. My father mailed me his by mistake. I was a little ticked at myself for having to go back home for my passport.

Post # 12
Hostess
823 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

theatrejulia:  Aw man, that sucks! I would have been so upset because I waited at the SS office for an hour and a half before anyone saw me! I hope you got it all taken care of though! 

To OP, the worst part was the SS office, after that and my DL everything was easy! Except Darling Husband and I have a joint savings account so when I went to change my name on that WE BOTH had to go in and sign. It was inconvenient since he works long hours. 

Post # 13
Member
2166 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

It didn’t really bother me that people used my maiden name for awhile. I worked at the same place as my mom too so that didn’t help people transition, but I didn’t mind. My boss was actually really good about using my married name, he thought it was funny to freak my mom out and change it at the office right away and call her from my phone, so that was helpful, new people never knew me as my former name.

I’m at a new job now and nobody knows me other than my new married name. Everything will get changed to your new last name, it takes time. You’ll think you got it all but something will pop up but you just gotta roll with it. 

Post # 14
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1812 posts
Buzzing bee

I’m glad I’m not alone. Married a month and a half and only started changing stuff–like payroll because I need to be sure the info is right for taxes. Social security and license to follow shortly. I’m thinking of going with one of those name change websites to help.

Post # 15
Member
462 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I know how you feel. Been working on changing all my accounts for the past month. And the worst is when some companies need me to fax info to them. Can’t i just email it to you people? I keep forgetting to bring my items into work to use our fax to prove to these people I got married!

I talked to the manager at the bank while I was changing things there and she said she has been married for years and she still comes across things that are still in her old name.

Atleast I have found a few accounts that I had forgotten to change my address when I moved, so now all the accounts are 100% correct! hahaha

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